Passionate relationships, passion, an interested look - all this characterizes the beginning of love. But a certain time passes and the feelings cool. Love is gone, is only a habit left? Or are feelings still burning in your heart? The answers to three questions will help distinguish real feelings from habit.
You will need
partner photos, sheet of paper, pen, memories
Instruction manual
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Think, would you become acquainted and communicate with your partner, if from the very beginning you knew him as well as you do now, would you like to build a long relationship with him? A negative answer indicates that you are bound only by habit, not love and respect. As long as you have the opportunity, break this relationship. Otherwise, you ruin each other's life.
2
Ask yourself the question: why do you love your partner. If you love him just like that, because he is like that, then perhaps you are bound by real feelings, because before he attracted you with something specific. Remember what the beginning of your relationship was. Perhaps the partner struck you with his loving gaze, reverent attitude and manner of communication.
If at the present time these qualities no longer delight you, and you see in your chosen one only flaws that annoy you, then you are only bound by habit, and love is gone. You are used to living the way you live, and are afraid to change anything.
3
Try to determine if stereotypes influence your relationship. Your relationship no longer gives you joy, insoluble problems much more. But everyone around you already knows about your future wedding. Groom or bride are liked by parents and friends. Yes, and have you been together for so long that breaking up is embarrassing and sorry for the years spent?
In this case, you are too susceptible to the opinion of others, you can’t talk about love here. But you should have an opinion on this. This is your life and it is up to you to decide what to do with it. And what your relatives and parents will think is not so scary compared to a ruined life …
4
Take a photo of a partner, look at it carefully. Write on a piece of paper all the qualities that you like about it, and next to it are those features that annoy you. This will help visually clarify the question of what connects you.
note
Do not jump to conclusions. Do not try to find out the answer to the question “Is this love or habit?”, Being in a bad mood.
Useful advice
Imagine that tomorrow you will never see your companion ever in your life. The result of this imagination can tell a lot.