We offend, they offend us. Often conflicts arise from scratch. And not always during a quarrel we say offensive words, because we want to say them. I just want to do it unpleasantly, and that's it. In response, insults also pour in. And then comes the understanding that it was all in vain. And you need to put up, forgive each other.
Instruction manual
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For starters, it would not hurt to figure out the cause of the conflict. One should think about what became the direct source of the quarrel. It might even be funny. Try to express the reason for the misunderstanding on paper. This is necessary so that you yourself clearly understand what is the matter.
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Break up with negative emotions. This will help you exercise. If possible, run a kilometer or two. Or shake the press. Double use and noble energy output. A TV is also suitable for this purpose. Yes Yes. See the emergency chronicle. This is a "therapeutic" way to overcome stress.
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Put yourself in the shoes of your abuser. Look at the situation from the other side. Perhaps he did not hurt you from evil, just, for example, he had another way. Of course, if the quarrel was intentional, in order to offend you, no one asks you to justify this act. Our goal is forgiveness, and you are not doing this for someone; you are doing this for yourself.
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Be the first to reconcile. Why accumulate negative emotions in yourself, why spoil yourself from the inside? Take the first step. This is an act of a wise and self-confident person. After all, if there is a possibility of reconciliation, it is worth doing it yourself. Only we ourselves can help ourselves in this.
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Try to think about the good that connects you with this person. After all, as a rule, we are very offended by people close to us, and no one holds a grudge against a stranger.
Forgiving is not so difficult in fact. Negativity should be abandoned and empty space filled with positive emotions. Remember yourself after reconciliation. What a feeling of lightness and tranquility takes hold of us. After all, we humans make mistakes.