Unfortunately, nothing lasts forever under the moon. People come to this world and eventually leave it. Faced with the inevitability of death, people try to support the family and friends of the deceased, to express grief and condolences.
Instruction manual
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Do not be shy about your feelings. If you are sincere, warm and friendly to those who grieve and suffer from a permanent loss, do not hold back emotions, support them with a kind word. People in such a stressful situation need care. Before speaking words of comfort to a person, think about who the deceased was, what he did good in life, what he taught you. Feel also what the person to whom you are going to express condolences now feels: his experiences, degree of loss, relationship with the deceased. Suitable words will be found by themselves.
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If you had a conflict or strained relationship with the deceased, then this should not affect your condolences. Do not talk about his negative qualities, wrong actions. You cannot know exactly how much a person has repented. Perhaps he just did not have time to ask you for forgiveness. As the saying goes, the deceased is either good or nothing.
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Sorrow can be expressed not only in words. If you could not find the right words, then do as your heart tells you. You can go up and hug the grieving, cry with him, without saying a word, if it is appropriate and ethical. If you and the deceased were not in close relations, then you can limit yourself to shaking hands with relatives in the cemetery after the farewell ceremony.
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Reinforce the words of sorrow with all possible help. Words without help are just a formality. Assist with the organization and organization of the funeral, material support will never be superfluous in such a situation - this does not mean that you are simply paying off. Things will not only reinforce your condolences, but at least a hundredth share will facilitate the life of the mourner. Feel free: always ask how you can help. Then your words will gain weight and significance.
Useful advice
Never console a mournful, bright future awaiting him. “It’s okay, you will marry again” - this is tactless and heartless. At this moment, no one is interested in future prospects. A person experiences a real loss.
In no case do not look for positive moments in the tragedy. Phrases like “Now he’s better. Finally, he was exhausted”, “There are situations worse” can only cause hostility and aggression.