Of all the contacts that exist in the life of every person, communication with parents is the most serious and important. Even when we reach the golden age and become parents ourselves, while still being children, we sometimes conflict with those to whom we owe the very fact of being born.
Instruction manual
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In any situation, before asking for forgiveness from mom or dad, you should cool off from emotions. After some time, it is much easier to realize your guilt and understand what the mistake was. Putting ourselves in the shoes of our parents is very difficult, since we have been accustomed since childhood that they always know everything better than us and, as a rule, insist on their decision, even if it contradicts our desires. However, the older we become, the easier it is to put ourselves in their place and understand that even if we - their children - have already grown up, they still care about us and wish us well. From this position it is much easier to see your mistake and feel the injustice.
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When you feel ready to ask your mother for forgiveness, speak the experience, admit your guilt and explain your feelings. Thus, you will give an opportunity to better understand your experiences. After all, you hardly wanted to deliberately hurt her. At the same time, do not forget to use the "I feel" communication model. We so often tell the other person how wrong he is. Actually, a different feeling is hidden behind our words. The essence of the “I feel” model comes down to the fact that each sensation should be formulated as “It hurts me” or “I feel sadness”. But not “You're wrong, ” or, worse, “You never hear me.” Thus, we give the other person a better understanding of ourselves, show that we are not iron, and each of us experiences our feelings. Listen to mom and hug her. The best sign of her forgiveness is your feeling of getting rid of heaviness on the soul.
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Often, conflicts between grown-up adult children and their parents are rooted in childhood. Unfulfilled desires, suppressed emotions - all this can come to the surface in the form of constant quarrels and disputes. Therefore, very often adult children conflict with their parents, not realizing that true relationships are harmonious, and parents are mentors, partners, and often close friends. Feel free to apologize to mom or dad. Of course, in any conflict there is a fault on both sides. The faster you can stop and experience them, the faster this awareness will happen.
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How to apologize to a friend. Unfortunately, it happened that you quarreled with your best friend. The reasons can be very different, from completely trifling, but in the process of a quarrel revealing all the sharp corners of your friendship, to serious when you do not want to forgive or ask for forgiveness.
Useful advice
How to apologize. In fact, asking for forgiveness is difficult. Even, perhaps, more difficult than a declaration of love for the subject of his sigh. Therefore, you must begin forgiveness by determining in your soul the degree of your guilt. And only after that it is necessary to approach the search for a way of forgiveness and the choice of the right words that are consonant with this most notorious sorry.