Self-deception is a psychological defense of a person from troubles and life problems, difficulties. Self-deception is a process of self-hypnosis, when a person is ready to convince himself by any means that everything that happens to him in life is the truth that really suits him. Self-deception is the creation of an illusion that does not allow a person to develop and really assess the current situation.
Often a person is not even able to confess to himself his fears, weaknesses, insecurity and problems requiring immediate resolution. What danger lies in self-deception? Why should not you think up stories about your life that are not true?
If you continue to lie to yourself, then all fears will not go anywhere, problems will not be solved, people who do not want to see themselves will not leave, work will not change itself. So, all this will continue to destroy the person and not give the opportunity to be realized in life.
Self-deception is a completely conscious action that a person performs, trying not to see the truth, avoiding making a decision. This is a conscious suggestion to oneself that everything is "good and beautiful, " although in reality everything can be "bad and terrible."
Examples of self-deception
A person is sick and all the means with which he was treated before that do not help him. Every day the condition worsens, he can no longer eat normally, sleep and go to work. But at the same time he continues to inspire himself with the thought: "Everything is fine, everything will pass, we must wait a little longer."
The disease does not appear so that a person does not notice it. And in order to point out very specific problems that need to be addressed immediately.
If we turn to psychosomatics, then, according to experts, most diseases do not arise by chance, is a consequence of internal conflicts, resolving which, a person can completely get rid of pathology. But if you continue to convince yourself that everything is normal in life, and the disease is only a temporary phenomenon, the result can be disastrous.
If a woman meets a married man, at the same time inspires himself with the idea that in fact he has not loved his wife for a long time, he is going to divorce her and you only need to wait a bit for the situation to change - this is self-deception. In most cases, the circumstances are not in favor of this woman. A man stays with his wife, and if he gets divorced, for some reason he is in no hurry to marry his new chosen one. Plus, some women cease to notice the shortcomings of such men, seeing in them only a “prince on a white horse”. In reality, everything is not so rosy.
Some parents try to literally “cram” their favorite children into the sports section or music school, dreaming that soon their son (or daughter) will become a great athlete or famous musician. In fact, everything is different. If there are simply no prerequisites for the child to achieve at least some decent results, and the parents continue to amuse themselves with the illusion and hopes of a "bright future", this is self-deception. At the same time, some parents sincerely begin to believe that their child is a genius, having inspired this illusion.
Self-deception is a kind of behavior strategy developed with the help of self-protection from negative experiences.
What is the danger of self-deception
When a person wants to achieve some results in life, he must accumulate a certain resource that will allow him to achieve what he wants. Self-deception in this case will play a “cruel joke” with a person, forcing him to overestimate his abilities and ascribe qualities that he does not really have.
Successful people will never engage in self-deception. They really assess their capabilities, set themselves attainable goals and gradually begin to solve them. The loser will only dream of incredible results and set goals that cannot be achieved, comforting himself with the need for a little more time and everything will happen by itself. Losers cannot correctly calculate their strength. Self-deception prevents them.