Often things happen in our lives that require exceptional self-control from us. Stressful situations, constant tension, sudden situations - all this causes emotions and does not allow us to control ourselves. The nervous system gradually wears out, we become more and more irritable. In order to avoid this, you need to follow just a few recommendations.
Instruction manual
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First of all, understand that emotions as such do not exist. There is a chemical reaction, the body's reaction to environmental changes, to aggressive behavior. Emotions are alien to pure reason; only cause and effect is present in it.
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Design your own priority system. Choose what is reasonable for you, both here and now, and in the long run. Jumping from long-term to short-term and vice versa will help you to save a huge amount of nerves, because many things that are important now have no value in the long run, and what will happen next is hardly felt now. Use this regimen in case of severe stress.
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Reason logically. In a pure mind, as already mentioned above, there are no emotions. Think, whether this or that action will be useful to you? How will it affect your long-term goals? Count the situation a few steps forward and find out if the development will be exactly the way you want it to be.
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If emotions overwhelm you, put yourself in the place of the interlocutor. Think about whose arguments you better listen to - those that are stated briefly, clearly and in fact, or to a flurry of aggression? Act on the basis of what is most effective. Remember: your goals are the most important thing you have.
Useful advice
In the event that you understand that you are not able to cope with emotions, and nothing described above helps, retire and talk to yourself. Speak the whole situation and get rid of the emotions that overwhelm you.