Many people lack self-confidence, in their abilities. Shyness, fear of approaching the person you like, fear of asking someone something - uncertainty manifests itself in a variety of guises. But it can be overcome by performing special exercises.
Instruction manual
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If some action makes you shy and insecure, try the following exercise. Imagine the worst that can happen if you decide to do it. For example, you want to approach the person you like, but be afraid. What would be the worst option? He will refuse you reciprocity or even laugh at you. Will you survive it? Surely. But you get a great chance for dating, which will not be if you are chickened. Imagine that you have already lost - you no longer have any hopes, you have nothing to lose. Knowing this, just come and get acquainted.
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One of the most common reasons for self-doubt is dissatisfaction with one's appearance. At the same time, fears are usually greatly exaggerated, and there really is no cause for concern. This fear can be treated in two directly opposite ways. The first coincides with the above scenario - agree that you are terribly ugly and this can not be changed. So, let them accept you for who you are. In the end, the main thing in a person is not appearance, but soul. Do not try to hide anything, on the contrary, communicate with your head held high - let everyone see your ugliness. Those who do not understand you will turn away from you - but you do not need them. Only those who are close in spirit to you will remain.
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The second option is that you refuse to consider yourself an ugly person, no matter what they say. You are beautiful, stylish, attractive.
If someone does not understand this, these are his problems. Do not convince yourself that you are beautiful - just know this, feel with every cell of the body. The whole secret is that you, feeling like a beautiful person, will really become more beautiful.
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An equally important cause of self-doubt is a banal lack of energy. A strong-willed person, as a rule, is full of energy, it literally radiates from him. The strength of a person can be determined by his gaze - the weaker one will look away first. You can build strength with the help of energy exercises (you can read about them on the Internet), and with the help of psychological training.
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A very good way to become stronger is to identify yourself with the "totem" animal. Choose a strong animal that is attractive to you - tiger, bear, wolf
Then, walking around the city, try to identify yourself with it. Feel his strength, calm, unhurried, full of grandeur gait. Do not imitate the predator externally, everything should happen only in your mind. Outwardly, you must remain the most ordinary person. But if you regularly practice this technique, then after a while you will notice the changes that are happening to you. You really will become stronger, your strength will begin to splash outward, manifesting itself in your movements, gaze, voice. At the same time, much of what scared you would seem just ridiculous to you.
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A good exercise is to live before bedtime, already lying in bed, difficult situations for you. Try to feel them as sharply as possible, scroll them over and over in your mind, getting rid of negative emotions, cultivating a sense of strength and self-confidence. Many athletes use this method, mentally rehearsing the complex elements of a performance. As a result, their performance improves significantly.
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Never and never go on the occasion. Remember that in this world everything is based on centers of power: weaker ones revolve around stronger ones. Learn to say no if you don’t want to fulfill someone’s request. As a result, you will become noticeably stronger. Failure to say no at the right time is a sign of weakness. Do not look for idols, do not blindly follow authorities. Have your own opinion about everything, and people will start reaching for you. So it should be - you become the center of power, and people begin to revolve around you
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