How often do you ask yourself: Why am I smart, beautiful, funny - I feel like a failure? "You know the answer yourself: you are not self-confident. A confident person knows how to argue and defend his interests, and an unsure person blames himself for any reason. Personal life and the first career is much more successful than the second. This list goes on and on. So what prevents many of us from believing in our strengths?
Instruction manual
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Look into the past
As a rule, there are two main reasons for self-doubt. The first - in childhood, when you were formed as a person, parents, friends or teachers pressed you with their authority, often made comments to you, rebuked you for something, did not listen to your opinion. The second - for a long time there was (or maybe is) a person who constantly doubts everything. It is clear that you could become infected with this.
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To get rid of insecurity, psychologists advise to realize their most vivid grievances and try to relive them again with maximum emotional strength. It's never too late to mentally change your past. Your goal is to turn the burden of the past into a valuable inheritance, into experience, into life potential. And remember, you should not be ashamed of the difficult moments in your life (divorce, unsuccessful interview, loss of money). If you have overcome this, then you have become stronger. It should be proud of.
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Make friends with you
There are wonderful words in the Bible: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Everyone has heard this phrase, but not everyone knows that in order to love someone, you first need to learn to love yourself. This love is not selfishness, not deception, not arrogance. This is the basis of man.
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Do you want to do good deeds, but at the same time consider yourself bad? But can someone bad do something good?.. You can break out of a vicious circle only by changing your attitude towards yourself. Neither Monday, nor tomorrow, but from that second. Act!