Self-made people are found everywhere. But what could be more unpleasant than a tyrant boss at work or a similar teacher at a university or school? It is one thing when a stranger insults us, whom we will never see again in our lives. In this case, you can do nothing at all. And it’s a completely different matter - to become a victim at work, when to answer an insult - it means to part with this work once and for all.
And how to correctly react in such a case?
Do not stoop to his level
In no case should not yell at the offender in response. Even if there is no power to keep your mouth shut, you still need to hold back. The fact is that you are unlikely to convince a person of something, but go down to his level. And this level, I must say, is low. Before you open your mouth, think carefully, is it worth it to humiliate yourself?
Insults mean nothing to you
And you don’t worry about them. Absolutely. Not an hour, not a day, not a month later. If you were told something unpleasant, and this is really very annoying, try to pretend that you do not care. Some people are completely unsettled when, in response to their cries, people react
.They don’t react at all. There are no tears of resentment, nor screams in response. There is nothing but complete indifference in the eyes of the person offended by them.
Have pity on the offender
He had a hard day, and now he, poor fellow, breaks down on his subordinates. And, perhaps, he simply asserts himself at your expense. In this case, you can also feel sorry for him, since he most likely does not have other ways to feel like a mighty lion.
By the way, the admission of the "mental disarming" of the enemy is remarkable in its simplicity. As soon as the boss opens his mouth, imagine him in some funny and awkward situation, for example, with a bowl of soup on his head. He insults you, and you see how cabbage soup slowly flows down his face. Firstly, it will become easier for you, because everyone knows that when the enemy is ridiculous and miserable, he is no longer terrible. And secondly, this person will see confidence in your eyes, not fear or resentment. And this will surely unsettle him.