A break with a loved one, no matter who caused it, is always traumatic. Life seems empty and meaningless. However, one can come out of this situation as a winner, find new colors in life and surround oneself with wonderful people.
"Parting is a little death"
Few people are ready for the words: "I'm leaving." Even if the relationship came to an end, it is difficult to take their last stage calmly. From a psychological point of view, this is normal. Parting, like any other loss, must be lived and accepted. In order to recover and live on, a person normally needs to go through five stages of grief.
First comes a period of denial. "No, he joked and does not leave, " "She cannot really take and get a divorce" - all the thoughts of the abandoned circle around this. At this stage, you can make hasty, but wrong decisions, for example, pretend that nothing happened. Or twenty times a day to call your beloved (beloved), despite their requests not to do so.
After that comes aggression. Ideas of revenge, quarrels with friends and relatives, a ban on meeting children with former spouses - these are his terrible companions.
Then comes the bidding stage. A person, depending on his religious and other beliefs, is trying to conclude an agreement with some higher powers. This can be a conscious step (prayers, fasting, active sudden charity) and unconscious ("I will lose weight and he will return, " "I will earn an apartment and she will change her mind").
The next step is depression. In severe cases, up to the need for the help of a doctor. Tears, breakdown, unwillingness to live - this will have to exist for some time. And only after this comes acceptance: positive emotions return to the person, internal forces appear, he is ready to live again.
Trips will help to survive the separation - from weekends in a country vacation house to a flight to an exotic country.
It is important for close people to help the deceased to go through all these stages, which can be different in duration. You should not laugh at bouts of religiosity or change yourself during the bidding period, and at the stage of aggression, heat up the conflict. This will only aggravate the situation.