If you are often offended by someone’s words or actions, this is an occasion to analyze your behavior. It is possible that no one was going to insult you, and the whole situation is not worth a damn. Grievances over nothing should be fought. After all, they poison life, spoil nerves and underestimate self-esteem.
Instruction manual
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Imagine that many years have passed, five or ten. Look at the situation from the future. Will you worry and cry in ten years? It is unlikely that you will remember at all what is now unsettling you like that. Then what is the point of concealing an insult and mentally chewing on something that will not affect your future life.
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Clarify the situation. Do not be afraid to ask your interlocutor what he has in mind and why it is so expressed. It is possible that people and in their thoughts did not offend you. You just misunderstood each other.
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Drop the emotions. Mentally describe your problems as the presenters of television news do. Speak only the facts. If you do not take into account the emotional coloring, it often turns out that there is nothing to be offended.
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Respond to criticism constructively. It makes no sense to be offended when you are criticized. On the contrary, this is a good reason to look at yourself and your work and, perhaps, change something. Well, if you think that they are perfect, then all the more there is no reason for resentment. After all, they do not criticize only those who do nothing at all and do not represent anything from themselves.
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Replace your abuser. Try to get into his skin and look at the situation with his eyes. How would you behave in his place? Perhaps you were wrong, and your opponent simply could not hold back the emotions. Forgive him and forget about the insult with a light heart.
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Change the setting. Often people get nervous and offended by trifles when the nervous system is exhausted. Go on vacation, chat with new people, explore new places. By return, you don’t even remember the insults that so poisoned your life.
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Contact a specialist if you can’t cope with constant insults over nothing. A competent psychologist will help you understand the causes of your behavior and teach you how to cope with the situation.