It’s hard to enjoy life with resentment. This feeling is heavy and sad. Do not take the words and actions of others too close to your heart. Understand yourself and learn to cope with your resentment.
Instruction manual
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Understand that resentment harms, first of all, yourself. Sometimes a person who has hurt you in his own words or actions may not even be aware of his unseemly act. He will continue to live quietly while you plague yourself with endless thoughts about what happened between you. It turns out that you punish yourself, keeping a grudge in your heart that eats you from the inside, deprives you of the joy of life and leads to stress.
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Learn to forgive others. Maybe you are too categorical in relation to other people. Change your attitude. Do not expect too much from them. Then you do not have to so often experience disappointment and resentment. Recognize that the person has the right to make a mistake. Treat others more tolerantly and condescendingly. If you learn to let go of the evil that someone has done to you, first of all it will be easier for you yourself.
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Think of even a negative situation as a certain life experience. The person you interact with can teach you something. Although the lesson is sometimes somewhat cruel, it also helps you become wiser, stronger, more enduring. Look at the situation that upset you very much from this perspective.
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Perhaps you are offended by others because you cannot understand their motives. Do not project your worldview on others. Your friends, acquaintances, relatives and colleagues have their own system of values and personal reasons to act in one way or another. In addition, do not discount the character traits of some people. What seems rude to you is the norm of communication for others. Try to see the situation from the other side, putting yourself in someone else's place.
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Do not be too dubious. Some people know how to find an attempt to insult or some kind of trick where it is not. Do not be like these people. Think of nothing for others. Take into account only the facts and the direct meaning of the words you hear, and not your own arguments. Sometimes it’s worth discarding emotions and objectively thinking that this person has done bad things to you. Do not forget that sometimes your bad mood, poor health or tiredness makes you irritable, impressionable and vulnerable. Consider your condition and mood before drawing conclusions about someone else's behavior.
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If someone seriously hurt you, do not take revenge and accumulate a grudge in yourself. Draw a caricature of this person or imagine him in a funny, unsightly light. Sometimes an intimate conversation with a loved one or a good friend helps. Share your sorrows and you should feel better.