Eyes in personal communication with a person play one of the most important roles, and for someone - a leader. But it is not always easy to establish close contact with the interlocutor, and the glance now and then, apart from our will, is diverted to the side. Finding out the reasons for this reaction, you can permanently solve this problem.
Instruction manual
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Uncertainty and low self-esteem most often interfere with looking a person directly in the eye. Moreover, in the absence of self-esteem, a person consciously avoids meeting with glances, because he is subconsciously afraid that he will be condemned or neglected.
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Therefore, relax. Remember that nobody owes you anything, and you also do not owe anything to anyone. And all you can give your interlocutor now is a sincere interest in his words. Feel as natural as possible, no matter how trite, but be yourself. The combination of views is only a detuning of contact, no one will get into your soul and do nothing wrong.
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Another reason is the presence of fraud. Often people do not look in the eye, because they are not completely pure in their words or actions, and conscience does not allow them to raise their eyes at times even above the floor. The fear that they will be taken to clean water is immense, and inner shame protects the deceiver.
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So, understand yourself. Maybe you are hiding something? If contact with a person is important to you, then the best way out is to put everything in its place. Indeed, honesty is the basis of communication, and an open look only emphasizes this openness.
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Focusing on your interlocutor’s speech or the words you spell helps you establish a look on his face. Try to remove all the fuss from your thoughts, feelings, feel the clear line of your conversation and fix the figure of a person in front of you.
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Look at it from the bottom up and gradually look up at your face. Examine the upper part of the face, as if examining the areas around the eyes, nose, eyelids, nose bridge, and then look into the eyes. Now you will not find the connection of views frightening, because you have already let this person in, trusted him.
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There is another technique, more like an imitation of the eye-to-eye look. Fix your gaze on the nose of the interlocutor, and, thus, it will visually seem to him that you look him straight in the eye. But who knows, maybe at some point you still go over yourself and come across a look, and the problem itself will finally cease to exist for you.