Each person can have their own reasons for screaming. One raises his voice, struggling with his insecurity. The second may not even notice that his behavior has changed. The third is not able to control the emotions raging inside. And these are not all variants of the reasons why a person screams. However, in any case, you need to know how to behave in a situation where the interlocutor begins to speak in raised tones.
There are people who, having gotten into a delicate situation, start to cry with a scream. However, this behavior is fundamentally wrong. Firstly, if you become infected by a screamer and begin to behave just as aggressively, you can provoke a serious quarrel. Secondly, some individuals deliberately provoke people around them to stop controlling themselves, to break loose and go on screaming. Provocateurs get moral pleasure from this and are fed by someone else's energy, they can be called energy vampires of their kind. In addition, a cry in response will not help solve the situation and can be perceived from the outside as an additional provocation, like an attack.
When in front of you is an uncontrolled aggressor who does not care at all about the volume of his voice, you need to try to pull yourself together and, unlike the interlocutor, start talking calmly, quietly, you can even go to a whisper. In a number of situations, this strategy works: the person who has just shouted and raged, gradually calms down. However, one must always remember that all people are different. There are individuals who can react to such behavior with even greater indignation, regarding it as an additional provocation. What then to do?
Another effective and generally reliable option is a banal interruption of communication. At least for a period of time. You can just shut up, try not to respond to a scream from the other person. Or even even leave the room in another room, on the balcony, on the street. Such a pause will allow you to take control of your emotions, and “screaming” will give you the opportunity to cool down and calm down. Just remember that silence or withdrawal should not be demonstrative, provocative or pathos, with a note of resentment and disappointment.
Almost flawlessly in situations where a person is cocked, when his voice is getting louder and is already ready to break, touches act. If there is such an opportunity and the relationship allows, then you should take a screaming person by the hand, gently touch him on the shoulder or completely embrace him without words. Such an action on your part can, firstly, shock, thereby forcing to shut up, and, secondly, to calm down a little the emotions inside the aggressor who screams. Tactile contact can work wonders. In addition, if a person screams because of his inner weakness, because of emotions, excitement, stress or insecurity, touching and hugging will act not only sobering. They will help a person to feel support, therefore, peace can come faster.
If there is a chance that a screaming person will hear you, you can try to carefully tell him that his behavior scares and disturbs you. It is worthwhile to make it clear that you are worried not only for yourself, but also for the "screamer". Perhaps a man who has raised his voice is simply trying to make sure that he is heard, listened to, understood and accepted.
When you know for sure that a scream acts as a manipulative action, you can try to confidently, but not harshly pull the person back, tell him / her to understand that he is behaving inappropriately, that his orc and scream affect you negatively, interfere with your work or to do some other things. In some cases, it can be helpful to shame an aggressive person. But remember that such behavior on your part can only be in a situation where you are really sure of the reasons for the cry that fear or insecurity are not hidden behind an increased voice.
One of the easiest behaviors when people shout at you is to keep calm and the usual request that a person stop yelling. It is not worth voicing such a request, without reproach or anger. Never snap, do not be rude to "screamer", otherwise you can cause an even more violent reaction on his part.