Household vampires are very dangerous for humans. Of course, of course, they don’t drink blood in the literal sense, but with appetite they eat our good mood, vital energy - spiritual, sexual and creative, poison us with the joy of life, bring discord in relationships with people.
Household vampires are divided into two types. Some - aggressors, actively interfering in our lives, the second - outwardly look like harmless people, only for some reason, in dealing with them, we behave like puppets on strings and experience a feeling of inexplicable guilt. Both aggressive and passive vampires are united by one thing: they interfere in our life, introduce negative emotions into it and make it unbearable.
A vampire aggressor looking for those to blame for everything and everyone will surely infect you with his negativity, sarcasm, indignation. If you become dependent on him, you will be to blame for everything! He will express dissatisfaction with life, projecting it on those who are nearby, constantly criticize everything you do, devalue your work, thoughts, your personality. And only after bringing the victim to an emotional explosion, the vampire aggressor will calm down. He will feel satisfied.
Quiet vampire, by contrast, looks very unhappy. She timidly looks into her eyes, loads with her problems, complains. aching, forcing you to spend time, money and effort to solve his problems. You will feel a duty to such a person - to support, console, dissuade from stupid actions and even suicide. Moreover, he will mercilessly scold, humiliate, blame himself for all the misfortunes of the world, but in the end - your mood will be spoiled, your strength wasted, and your psyche will be suppressed.
How to free yourself from the undesirable consequences of communicating with negative carriers? If you are dealing with a vampire aggressor, try to stop communication, reduce it to zero. This is especially difficult if the vampire aggressor is brought in by a close relative. In this case, the decision must be made tough: to disperse, remembering the proverb: "The farther - the relatives."
To respond with aggression to aggression means that you are in conflict, where you will definitely lose. After conflicts with the vampire-aggressor, your health worsens, your mood disappears, everything falls out of your hands, and a person becomes open to all sorts of everyday failures.
If you have contact with a whining vampire, make it clear that you are not going to waste time on someone else's life. An attempt to turn the endless problems of a vampire whiner into yours should be stopped, politely, but adamantly.
You can refer to employment, to invent a reason why you should leave the common space. Do not be afraid that you will be understood correctly: a feeling of awkwardness, a feeling of guilt is one of the tricks of a vampire whiner. If you give a slack - the trick will instantly turn into a noose on your neck.
If you don’t have the opportunity to save yourself from annoying communication, you can use the “repulsion” technique. During violent emotional outbursts, try to turn your attention: look at the landscape outside the window, draw patterns on paper with a ballpoint pen, get down to business. Let it even look demonstratively - you will distract the devourer of your life energy, puzzle him.
During the conversation, you can cross your arms over your chest. It helps a simple folk way, like "fig in your pocket." Looking at such an interlocutor, look not at the eyes, but at the bridge of the nose between the eyes. This blocks the outflow of your energy and neutralizes the destructive impulses for your psyche.
Do not share personal information with the vampire. Envy, internal negativity - all this leads to a situation that is popularly called the "evil eye." At the heart of the evil eye is mental programming, which will begin to work just when you do not expect it. To "turn on" a malicious life program, it is enough to experience a feeling of annoyance, annoyance.
For the same reason, you should not drink alcohol in a society of negatively-minded people. You will not notice how you are intoxicated, and when intoxicated, the brain is vulnerable, critical thinking weakens, protection decreases, you are open - it means you are defenseless. Your subconscious mind absorbs other people's information, as they say, “without words”. And then you yourself, with the help of the subconscious, will begin to destroy your life, not understanding why everything is going so badly for you.
The most important thing is to try to distance yourself from what is happening, do not take seriously what is happening. Turn on your sense of humor, don't be afraid to look mocking. Vampires hate a sense of humor if it concerns them personally. The ironic remarks may lead the vampire off, but he will no longer be willing to talk to you for a long time.