What motivates a friend to repeat every step you take? Friendship can turn into a gap if a friend copies you with malicious intent. Or maybe - filled with a new reason for jokes, if you remove the irritation and help your girlfriend find herself.
Instruction manual
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Try to understand why a friend is copying you and how deeply she is passionate about it. You enter one university, buy the same bags, and even young people with the same names from you? Perhaps a friend fluctuates in their own tastes and preferences, and you are the very landmark that is always nearby.
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A serious danger of having such “repeats” in your friends is that when you completely copy you, they copy not only the color of your varnish or the style of your skirt, but also your lifestyle, statements, behavior. A friend is so accustomed to the role that she is able to pass off your opinion as her own. Moreover, the obsession with such people sometimes has no limits and can lead to the fact that in your guise a friend is ready to go to the causeless actions. Hiding behind someone else's image, she is ready to forgive herself a lot and even step over you. Think about your friendship.
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Maybe a friend thinks like this: you and her are “sisters, ” “one team.” She likes to emphasize the similarities between you, thereby showing others your closeness. She not only copies your walk, gestures and phone model, but also prefers to use “my girlfriend” instead of “I” in a conversation.
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If a friend is by nature an insecure, timid girl who is afraid to seem funny and tasteless, help her. You can start a conversation by saying that it is dear to you, but copying is annoying. Explain that sometimes you do not mind to go to the disco in the same dresses with her for a joke, but you are not interested in being friends with your clone. Convince your friend that you are ready to give endless advice and go shopping with her, only, you hell, you help her, but everyone chooses his own.
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It happens that a girlfriend is just too lazy to waste her time in the throes of choice. Going with the flow, the friends of the "pofigisticheskogo" warehouse blindly copy the nearest available. Treat the situation with humor. Take a few half-hints in the spirit: "We are already considered twins! I propose to be them only on weekends, and better - not more than once a month!".
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Why not openly tell your friend that you strive to be not like everyone else? A sensitive friend will understand that after this statement her imitation will inevitably lead to a quarrel, the instigator of which she will be.
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But does she do it in spite? Does your girlfriend envy you? The “thick” calculation of it may consist in the fact that by simply copying it kills your uniqueness. Study the situation carefully before drawing conclusions. If villainy is there - alas, admit that you no longer have a girlfriend.
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No need to humiliate a girlfriend and taunt her. Try to understand that copying you completely is still not possible. Talk to your girlfriend correctly, heart to heart.
Useful advice
Analyze what you don’t like about your girlfriend’s behavior and what you’re ready to close your eyes:
- people perceive you as one and do not see differences between you;
- people may not guess who is following whom;
- you like to be unusual, not like everyone else, and a friend destroys this uniqueness.