There is nothing wrong, reprehensible in the fact that a person experiences fear. Even a brave man can get scared. After all, a sense of fear was originally inherent in man from the moment civilization emerged, and it helped him survive by teaching him to behave with reasonable caution. But what if the fear takes on clearly unhealthy, excessive forms, becomes intrusive, that is, turns into a phobia?
Instruction manual
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First of all, do not self-flagellate like: I'm a miserable coward, I'm afraid of heights (or public speaking, darkness, spiders, dogs). Think about it: after all, even world-famous people, including illustrious heroes, had bouts of fear. There is absolutely nothing shameful in this. The main thing is not to allow fear to possess oneself, to deny the ability to reason sensibly.
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Try to remember: what is the beginning of your phobia connected with. If you are afraid of dogs, then almost certainly you were bitten or scared by a dog in early childhood. Try to reassure yourself with this logical argument: after all, there are criminals among people, but this does not mean that you have to shy away from everyone you see, considering him a villain. There are still many more good people. The situation is exactly the same with dogs: not every one of them "sleeps and sees" how to bite you.
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Do you have panic fear of deep water? Does it stretch from the day your father or older brother decided to teach you how to swim by pushing you into the water? Like, he himself will swim, afraid that he will drown. Alas, this brutal method is still sometimes practiced not by the most intelligent people. As a result, you were terribly scared, terrifying the water. Try to convince yourself: you are not obliged to answer all your life for this stupid act. Swimming is not at all difficult. Try to learn how to stay on the water, going into the water waist-deep or in the pool. As soon as you yourself understand and feel that the water holds you, the obsessive fear of drowning will quickly pass.
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Or are you afraid of airplanes? Yes, many people dislike the idea that they can be high above the ground, moving with great speed. They are afraid of their own helplessness, a complete dependence on the skill of the crew, on the technical condition of the aircraft. This is understandable and natural. But try to reassure yourself by remembering that, according to statistics, an airplane is the safest mode of transport.
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In extreme cases, seek the help of an experienced psychologist.