Often people, not wanting to quarrel with relatives, accumulate grievances for a long time and do not even talk about the most powerful negative emotions. This behavior can lead to very serious problems, so it is best avoided.
Unspoken grievances and difficulties in relationships
Negative emotions, suppressed over time, can destroy even relationships that seemed very strong. They destroy families, lead to quarrels between lovers, colleagues, neighbors, relatives, close friends. That is why it is so important to explain that you did not like it.
Hidden grievances turn people into hidden enemies. The result is a situation where the relationship just breaks up. Moreover, people can not only part, but even cherish plans for revenge.
Unspoken grievances persist for a long time in the heart. First of all, they are dangerous in that the negative accumulates, even if others do not suspect about it. It would seem that anger has long died down, but there was an unpleasant aftertaste in the soul, which every day more and more corrodes the feeling of love, tenderness, gratitude. As a result, a person begins to be angry at his offender. Every “wrong” word, from his point of view, can cause irritation. As a result, a person who has survived and swallowed a grudge, once fails and scandal over a seemingly trifling trifle.
There is another, no less unpleasant scenario. A person can for a long time recall a grudge and his claims, which he did not dare to make, even if other participants and witnesses of the situation have long forgotten about it. If one day in a fit of anger he recalls this situation, the problems accumulated by both sides will turn a trifling quarrel into a real scandal that could lead to a breakdown in relations.