Hot temper is a negative quality that obscures the mind, so a person spills out negative emotions, from which others suffer. Getting rid of this trait takes time, perseverance and the help of loved ones.
Instruction manual
one
Identify the first signs of temper. This can be excessive tension in the body, gritted teeth, lumps in the throat, clenched fists, frequent breathing. At the first sign, practice deep breathing with rhythm counting. Inhale, start from the abdomen, inflate the stomach, then fill the chest with air, hold your breath, then begin to exhale slowly, drawing in the stomach. Inhale and exhale on 5 counts, gradually bringing it to 8, until you feel calm.
2
Set experiences that trigger a short-tempered reaction. This may be some unresolved problem, certain actions of people, intonation, voice. You need to relax, stay home alone, or go to the sauna, spa, for training. Take all kinds of relaxation methods, then you will get an answer that causes such a reaction. Write down all of the answer options to test in practice.
3
When you want to flare up, give yourself a respite. Say to yourself "Stop! Only after 5 minutes." In these few minutes you can sing a song, a melody or imagine yourself as a large stone, standing in the middle of a rapidly flowing dirty river. This is not so easy to do, but possible if you imagine it in the form of a game. After a while, the emotion will settle down and the situation will be subject to common sense.
4
Try to draw the reasons on a piece of paper or write them down, after which you can break the sheet into small pieces.
5
Apologize to others when you feel that emotions are about to take control of you, leave the room. Focus on breathing, interior, landscape.
6
Exclude from the diet stimulating foods, spices - onions, garlic, peppers, etc. Drinks - alcohol, coffee, cocoa. Soon you will feel that attacks have begun to come less often.
7
Take long walks, practice yoga, positive thinking, then the temper will leave you forever, you will gain control over emotions.
eight
If you can’t understand the problem you are constantly visiting, then contact a specialist. Behind the temper, the traumatic situation of the past, which protects against pain or fear, can be deeply hidden. Perhaps the reason lies in the medical plane, and a psychiatrist or neuropathologist will help.