How often do we accumulate resentment in ourselves, driving them deep inside. The gradual accumulation of negative emotions after some time can provoke the occurrence of various diseases. Therefore, it is necessary to learn to forgive and let go of the pain of unforgiven insults.
Instruction manual
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Many of us hold grudges against someone. This feeling is destructive and "eats" from the inside. Most often, it is the cause of many diseases and ailments. Ask yourself if it’s worth daily scrolling through the head from situations in the past when you were hurt. Thus, you are filled with negative emotions, but the past cannot be changed.
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Situations in which resentment arises may be different. This is humiliation in the family, disrespect at work, indifference of children, etc. Much depends on the type of person. One is offended at any occasion, the other must try to offend. In itself, this feeling stems from pride. It is she who gives birth to such monsters as revenge and betrayal. You can let go of pain and learn to perceive life and relationships with people in the following ways.
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Method "pool of memory"
Many watched a series of films about the adventures of the book hero D. Rowling Harry Potter. In one of the episodes, the wizard takes out small clouds of thoughts from his head and drops them into a special container - a “pool of memory”. You can also do with your own, put them off thinking for later.
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The technique of "conscious indifference"
Try not to pay attention to offensive words and actions from your point of view. Imagine that all this is said not about you and not for you, but to someone else. After some time of such exercises, you will feel that many things have become more relaxed.
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The technique of "mirror"
She's a little harder. Its meaning is to imagine yourself in the role of the person who offends you, and try to understand why he behaves this way. Usually, if an individual begins to think in this direction, much becomes clear.
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Of course, it’s not easy to take and stop being offended. To get a positive result and let go of severe pain, you need to work on yourself. A new habit is developed for 21 days. If you firmly decided that you need to stop living in the grip of negative emotions, then you need to tolerate and work hard, and the pain will surely recede.
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Only by working on oneself can one strengthen one’s soul and be less offended by other people.
Useful advice
People do not know what is happening in your soul, so is it worth it to torment yourself if others do not care.