It is believed that female friendship does not exist. Such an idea firmly stuck in the head of people, especially among representatives of the strong half. No matter how denied this fact, there is friendship between women.
A girlfriend is the closest person with whom you can share the joys of victory and the bitterness of defeat. She can be asked for advice. Often this bright feeling poisons such a thing as envy. It is sometimes very difficult to eradicate the green demon that has settled inside.
First of all, do not blame yourself for the appearance of such an emotion. Envy is the same feeling as joy, love, jealousy, and people cannot do without it. Paying attention to successful people, you can understand what you want from life. The main thing is that this emotion does not grow into something more (hatred).
The main causes of envy
In a person’s life there are moments that cause envy more often than others. These include:
- Money. Its occurrence is obvious when one girlfriend has a good income, while the second is interrupted from a penny to a penny, saving every ruble.
- Children. In particular, childbirth and the number of babies.
- Marital status. Happy relationship, marriage.
- Figure. Physically, a girlfriend is considered more attractive, thin.
Can friendship be maintained?
There are many reasons for envy, especially between friends. Loving husband, happy family, successful children, gorgeous figure, career. Can friendship be saved if a worm of envy is already wound up?
The first thing to do is sit down and analyze the situation. Maybe she was just lucky, or maybe she has come a long way of problems and disappointments, which you might not see right away. For example, one of the girlfriends was offered a good position, but the second was not. Why did it happen? Maybe the first one works better, or is late until late, or she has an affair with her boss. Can the second also sacrifice free time? And to risk relationships, taking courtship from an unpleasant person?
On the other hand, is the first girlfriend happy, having what the second wishes. Does she have fewer reasons for envy? It is worth remembering that friendship is a communication not of the same people, but of different people that complement each other. If there is no desire to lose a girlfriend, then you need to try to maintain this relationship. Envy will always appear in certain specific moments, but you need to be able to restrain it and enjoy the victories of a friend.