Not at odds with your own emotions? If you “explode” at the most inopportune moment, take out the accumulated irritation in your near and dear ones, and then reproach yourself for what happened, then you should learn to take negative feelings under control.
Instruction manual
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Allow yourself to be angry. Paradoxical as it may seem, the first step to emotional self-control is to realize your own right to a negative attitude towards others. Trying to suppress irritation and resentment, suppressing anger and anger in yourself, you risk losing control of your own behavior. Such tactics can result in unexpected and unreasonable outbursts of anger, as well as depression, moral discomfort.
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Be honest with yourself. If you dislike a certain person, then you should try to analyze your emotions. First of all, try to understand exactly what qualities, traits, habits, cause a wave of irritation in you. Controlling your emotions will become much easier when the main cause is identified. It may turn out that you are projecting on others … dissatisfaction with yourself and your own life. Are you satisfied with your personal life? Career? Appearance? To learn how to control emotions, you must be in harmony with yourself.
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Do not keep in yourself. It is better to express your dissatisfaction immediately, otherwise the accumulated grievances may result in a nervous breakdown. However, avoid accusations and insults! To turn the conversation into a constructive channel, use the "I-utterances" technique. Instead of reproaching the interlocutor, tell him about your feelings. Explain why his behavior provokes your negative reaction. Then share your vision of the situation and offer to discuss the problem, find a compromise.
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Take the time out. If you feel that the internal tension has reached the limit, then you should postpone the conversation. Leave the interlocutor at least for 5 minutes, take a breath, think over the essence of your claims once again. Calm down? Then you can return to the conversation, but build it from the right, constructive position. But if it was not possible to pacify your irritation, then you should not continue the conversation on this day.