There are people who do not like to celebrate their birthdays. There may be different reasons for this attitude. Many of them are associated with early childhood.
There is a category of people who do not like to celebrate their birthdays. They may well participate in the celebration of someone else’s birthday, but they somehow perceive their holiday “wrong”.
Where does this attitude come from? What is hidden behind the negative perception of his birthday?
Ancient people believed that coming to this world is a holiday and that magicians come to a person on his birthday. They make gifts - at the beginning of life for life, on their birthday for a year. And every new year they come and watch how we disposed of their gifts, what we used for the benefit, what not. Whether it is true or not, it is not known to us for certain, but most likely, in our deep memory there is a vague feeling of expecting something magical.
Also, a birthday symbolizes one’s birth, coming into this world, rebirth, the end of one cycle and the beginning of another. It turns out that this is a very important day.
Consider what may be hidden behind a negative attitude towards your birthday.
1. Deep rejection of oneself.
A symbolically negative attitude toward one’s birthday can mean a corresponding attitude towards oneself, one’s appearance in this world, and the expectation of rejection of oneself by the world, the closest people. This attitude is usually not recognized, but in its own way affects many areas of life. Such a person lacked self-love and looks like a small offended child who constantly hopes that someday he will finally be loved and accepted.
As a rule, the basic acceptance or rejection of oneself is laid down depending on the feelings experienced by the parents of the child. How desirable was he? What feelings were associated with pregnancy? How did the birth of a child proceed? Was it a holiday or one big nuisance? All of these factors affect basic self-acceptance or non-acceptance.
2. Resentment to loved ones.
The second possible reason for dislike for your birthday logically follows from the first. If a child and then an adult have a strong resentment towards their parents, especially their mother, this can also emotionally connect with the moment of their birth. After all, a mother gives birth, and if there is a strong resentment against her, the corresponding attitude can go over to the very perception of birth. And even further down the chain, it can influence the attitude to your birthday, we understand the source of such an attitude or not.
3. Fear of change.
Since a birthday symbolizes the end of one cycle and the beginning of a new one, as well as rebirth, it would be logical to assume that a person who does not love his birthday may have difficulty updating many aspects in his life. It is difficult for him to finish one and start another, he will constantly try to endlessly pull something old, it’s difficult to make a decision, change something in life, or make an important act. Holding the old it is impossible to accept the new, change.
4. Emotional blocking.
The attribute of any holiday is bright and strong emotions and feelings. In our case, for some reason a person blocks the manifestation of these emotions. Perhaps, in some situations, strong emotions will still erupt, but not to the extent and not the way it could be in more favorable conditions.
We examined the main causes of negative perceptions of birthday celebrations. In this case, the awareness of your “reason” will allow you to change your attitude to this event.