Neuro-linguistic programming is a model of interpersonal communication that offers methods for managing one's and others' emotions. Having learned the techniques of NLP, you can easily attract others and achieve mutual understanding.
Instruction manual
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Pay attention to how the other person perceives the information better. In NLP, the representative human system is subdivided into auditory, visual, and kinesthetic. The audio perceives the information well by ear and often uses phrases like “don't want to hear” or “listen to me” in speech. The visual prefers to see a visual image, and in the conversation uses the expression "my eyes would not have seen" or "see what happens." Kinesthetic remembers feelings and seeks to touch the subject of the conversation if possible. In a conversation, he may say that he “feels how the situation is changing” or “feel the moment”. Each person needs to communicate in his own language so that communication is effective.
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Join another person’s behavior pattern. This method is called “reflection” or “mirroring” in NLP. You are able to quickly achieve the location of a communication partner by talking with him in a similar tone and tone of speech, using his usual vocabulary and facial expressions. At the same time, you can mirror the pose that it takes when you communicate, as well as the intonation and pace of breathing.
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It is possible to quickly and effectively evoke the necessary feelings and emotions in oneself and others using the “anchoring” method. This requires several times in the same situation to create an additional anchor - an element that will be an association with this behavior or case. For example, lovers listen to dates of one artist’s songs, and then his repertoire will evoke romantic emotions for life. When a person is confident in himself, brilliantly speaks to the public and achieves favorable terms of the transaction in negotiations, he can touch his shoulder or stroke his hand, and later this gesture will help him to quickly enter a state of confidence and good luck.
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According to the basic principle of NLP, if something does not work, then you need to do something differently. If you do not have mutual understanding with the interlocutor, then use other arguments, give examples and argue your beliefs based on the similar opinion of authoritative people. At the initial stage, seek agreement in the small, give way in insignificant moments for yourself and strive to communicate with your partner on the same wavelength. Only after contact is established and mutual understanding is reached, start discussing important issues. If you can’t achieve your goal in the usual way, look at how others solve these issues and change your tactics of behavior. Each person has an inexhaustible potential of abilities, so you only need to believe in yourself and begin to act.