We very often forget that living people are somehow connected with any of our activities. Absolutely everything depends on them! Without communication with them, a career and a comfortable life are not possible. How to get along in the world of people? To do this, there is a "Platinum instruction", which makes sense to carry with you to all places where you have to communicate with different people.
Instruction manual
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Most people hear, but do not know how to listen and really do not like it when they are given advice, even truly valuable. So, the first rule of communication: never express your opinion if you are not asked about it. Ask more often: "do you really want to know my opinion"?
Summary: Do not give your opinion if you are not asked about it.
2
Try to gradually eliminate the habit of giving people advice. It’s natural for a person not to notice his own stupidities, but he will gladly hold you accountable for following your advice and failing
Moreover, the counselor acts as an instructor or mentor who, by definition, knows something better. Replace the advice with a secret, it does not cause confrontation and brings together, because secrets are shared only with those who are trusted.
Summary: avoid giving people advice and, as a result, be responsible for them; turn tips into secrets.
3
Avoid criticizing other people; they don't like it. But if you cannot do without criticism, then criticize carefully, privately and constructively, arguing and confirming your position with facts. The main thing is to direct criticism not on the person, but on the act or situation. You can’t say: "I do not like the way you
."Correct:" I am not comfortable with this situation, I would do so
Summary: do not criticize the person, but his actions and actions, but do not forget to offer something in return.
4
Always, always, praise the person and speak positively about him. Praise must be directed to the person of the interlocutor and do it publicly, in contrast to forced criticism. The most effective praise, if, of course, you want to make a person your friend, is with a third party. Only speak positively about people, regardless of your true attitude towards them. It also relieves you of stress.
Summary: praise people and give compliments, and even if you spoke well of a sworn enemy, and he found out about it, your conflict will take on completely new and soft forms.
5
When you evaluate a person’s actions in relation to yourself, do not assign him the role of an omniscient expert. In fact, who is he to make comments to you? Imagine that a child or a clown in a circus makes a complaint to you, are you offended? It is also always useful to understand that many factors influence human behavior. Not everyone is able to cope with circumstances that affect their own behavior.
Summary: do not treat people as omniscient experts, know how to forgive and not accept claims at your own expense.
note
Rebuild your own perception of others and you will be surprised to notice how the world is changing around you.
Useful advice
Say to yourself like a mantra: "People are not logical, they are weak and are not obliged to meet my expectations, early as I am not obliged to answer for their actions and reactions!"