Some dream to get rid of shyness and stop treating people as torture. If you overcome shyness, life will change for the better, and many problems will disappear.
Instruction manual
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Stop getting obsessed with literally everything - from how best to answer a question, ending with what expression would be appropriate in this conversation. Communicating without interruption, without letting the interlocutor insert words, is not a good idea. But a minute and a half to ponder the answer, shyly shifting from one foot to another, is also not the best option. Relax and think not about the impression you or your speech make, but about the subject of the conversation.
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Communicate more often, because any knowledge is gained in practice. If conversation is a serious test for you, start small. For example, to a colleague’s greeting, do not just answer in monosyllables, but ask about the weather, the result of yesterday’s match or other little things. It will gradually become easier to maintain a conversation. You will learn not only to answer questions in a detailed manner, but also to ask them.
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Use gestures and facial expressions actively. This will help the interlocutor to understand what your mood is or how you react to what is said. Often call the participants in the conversation by name, when contacting, look in the eye, and not on the floor or wall, because the latter causes discomfort to those who are talking. Smile more (sincerely, not tortured) and do not be afraid to joke even in a serious conversation. This will help defuse the situation.
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Read and learn quotes from great people or just funny stories and jokes. With their help, you can easily and simply smooth out the pause that arose in a conversation and cause the interlocutors to smile. For situations in which you lose your temper (a visit to the boss’s office, for example), prepare a few phrase phrases that you can pronounce when other thoughts fly out of your head.
note
Learn to enter into a state of indifference - when you do not care about the opinions of others - when you forget that you need to communicate “correctly” - communicate using your subconscious mind - without thinking about what to say - so that your communication happens on its own. These are the basic rules and mistakes that are made during communication. But the most important thing is practice. To learn how to communicate - communicate more and people will be drawn to you.
Useful advice
To communicate better, firstly, you just need to communicate. Anyone who sits at home and flips through the Internet in the hope of learning how to communicate is not doing that. Go to people and learn to communicate. Please note: do not just communicate, but learn to communicate. If until now you were communicating (suddenly) doing only two things - you were angry when your interlocutor spoke beautifully, and you were ill when he was wrong, then it is foolish to continue such communication, becoming stronger in him.