Thoughts of suicide come to many people. The reasons for committing suicide can be very different. It can be very difficult to convince such people to give up suicide, they need a special approach.
Listen to man
If you want to save a person from suicide, you need to listen to him carefully. Remember that a person is in an extremely depressed state. If he thinks about suicide, most likely you will not be able to help him, relying only on your own experience. Moreover, inept attempts to help can only worsen the situation. A man, if he decided to share his problems, actually screams for help, he reveals your soul. Misunderstanding on your part can greatly harm him.
Another mistake you can make is not to take the words of suicide seriously. If a person says that he wants to commit suicide, do not try to joke or in any way change the topic of conversation. In the vast majority of cases, such words are backed up by a strong intention.
Implicit signs
Communication with a person does not always allow you to accurately understand his intentions. He can talk about his problems, difficulties in life, but not report suicide directly. In this case, you need to pay attention to statements that are usually extremely emotional. For example, a person may say that no one needs him, and no one will notice his disappearance.
Another sign of suicidal tendencies may be the words that a person no longer has hopes for something or that he is unable to do anything else. Perhaps this is an attempt to show that a person is giving up, he is preparing to leave life.
There can be obvious signs in a person’s speech that speak of suicidal thoughts. For example, he worries about how his family will live on, he is interested in drugs that he does not need to take, he is extremely difficult to experience minor difficulties, etc.
Reasons for Suicidal Thoughts
It would be a big mistake to think that a person talking about suicide is insane and does not understand his actions. Do not allow such assumptions in your speech, this will show that you do not understand what is happening. Try to take the person’s words seriously. You cannot know in advance what problems have brought a person to such a state. Try to enter the position of the interlocutor, say that you are scared for him. Try to find out what exactly drives him to suicide. However, in no case do not ask the person why he decided to commit suicide. With this question you blame what is happening on him, in fact, blaming him for his problems. Talk about the circumstances in which he fell, but not about his actions.
Talk about things important to him.
Once you understand the reason for such a person’s behavior and there will be trust between you, you can talk with him about the things that keep him from suicide. For example, ask him how his children will react to this, if he has them. Ask what will be related and close to him. However, do not talk about things that could make things worse. For example, if a person wants to commit suicide due to a conflict with a loved one, do not say that this is fixable and that everything will work out. Speak on abstract, but also very important topics for a person. Try to make him talk about his dreams and goals in life, help him understand that there are more reasons to continue living with him.