The modern world is full of stresses that accumulate and can lead to depression. People need a discharge, which, unfortunately, sometimes occurs in the form of an outburst of negative emotions on one's neighbor. Thus, an offense is formed, which is very difficult to forgive. How to relate to such situations so as not to add stress to your own piggy bank?
Instruction manual
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People, as a rule, themselves do what they do not tolerate from others, this is the paradox of human relations. Each person adjusts the world around him, and any other person has an individual role in it. People are obliged to behave as he pleases, but they do not. There is a contradiction between expectation and result, irritation appears.
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The accumulated irritation does not always find a way out immediately and often falls upon the one who is not at all involved in it, on a completely different personality. Unfortunately, often such situations cause a chain reaction, since each person in stock has an unspent supply of negative emotions that can burst out due to one incident.
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What to do if you have been unjustly insulted, humiliated, trampled upon your dignity? The most important thing in this situation is patience. Unfortunately, it is difficult to be patient when you are on the platoon, so it is very important to pour out negative emotions in the safest way for others and yourself. It is ideal for active entertainment, such as dancing or fitness, creative clubs, entertaining hobbies, shopping.
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When a person is calm, then when another person attacks, even an outsider, he will understand that he is not the main object of his irritation. As a rule, the offender thus produces a nervous discharge, realizing his psychological complexes. If this person you met by chance, the most reasonable would be to go aside, to withdraw from the conversation. If this is not possible, then it is important to maintain self-control as much as possible so as not to ignite a more serious conflict.
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What if the offender is not a stranger, but, on the contrary, a close friend or loved one? It is not enough to avoid a quarrel, you need to analyze the situation, find out what caused his / her explosion of emotions. Perhaps a loved one needs help, which he cannot ask directly. Often, based on such misunderstandings, domestic disputes arise, which, in the worst case, can lead to violence.
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Of course, one should not act abruptly and ask the question in the forehead: "What is it?" It is necessary to gently take a person out of nervous excitement, wait until he calms down. The worst option for finding out the cause in this case is the question: "Why are you nervous?" So you only kindle a fire of anger in a person even more. In addition, you can provoke a loved one to a harsh response or other rash actions, which he himself can later greatly regret.
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It is the suppression of conflicts that leads to the accumulation of claims between spouses, often for negligible reasons. Therefore, it is important to be able to forgive a loved one and give him the opportunity to apologize.
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What should I do if the offender is wound up at work and does not want to leave you alone? Constantly not reacting in this case is unlikely to succeed, because a colleague is constantly nearby and can set the whole team against you. Unfortunately, you have to tune in to a serious conversation with him, and here too you can not do without endurance and enormous self-control. The offender should be recalled to the side and talk to him without witnesses. Perhaps once you behaved incorrectly towards him, and even if you do not recognize this, you must find the strength in yourself and apologize.
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Remember that responding with aggression to a grudge, you become one level with your offender, whom you most likely despise. Be above him, sorry and forget. You will see that your generosity will help you feel better.