A man can be controlled. The only question is, is it necessary? Really an adult could not do without daily control, for example, from the side of parents before meeting you? Even if this did not happen, in a good family, as the Russian proverb says: "The husband is the head, and the wife is the neck."
Instruction manual
one
Think about whether the relationships that currently exist between you are so bad that you urgently need to radically change something.
2
Take a pen and paper and, dividing the sheet into two columns, describe the positive and negative traits of your man. If on some points you have doubts (for example, when deciding whether he is generous, doesn’t give unnecessary reasons for jealousy, etc.), pay special attention to his reaction regarding money, other women, etc. d. You may have previously lost sight of something.
3
Do not tell him that you are going to control him. If you have not married yet, do not talk first about going to the registry office. If you have been married for a long time, do not immediately begin to demand from him a daily detailed report on matters. Exercise control over a man gradually, without stooping to read personal correspondence by e-mail and spying on him during work.
4
Start a conversation about his parents, about his hobbies outside work, advise to meet friends more often. To do this, use the form not of an order, but of a request, for example: "Something you have not visited your mother for a long time." Or: "I'm so tired today, dear. Maybe you leave me for a while, go to the bar, sit with friends?"
5
The day after his visit to his parents or gatherings with friends, suddenly start a conversation with him about his hobby with the words: “While you were not at home, dear, I found on the Internet interesting information about new fishing methods (rowing, sawing with a jigsaw crocheting) ". Be sure to find this information first. And don't ask him what he did yesterday. It is likely that a man, encouraged by your attention to him, will tell you about this.
6
Gradually learn to share with a man all his hobbies. But do not impose. If today he wants to go on oars alone or with friends, let him go. With genuine interest and curiosity of a neophyte, ask him to talk about how friendly competitions were, who won, what facial expressions the loser had, etc. Pay attention to who or what else the man will talk about when answering your questions.
7
Never argue with a man, even if he is not right on any issue, if you do not want to grow from him a tyrant or a weak hunted creature, exhausted by complexes. But don’t give in.
eight
Express your opinion and ask the man for advice or additions. If your opinions differ radically, do as he says, but with certain assumptions so that you can fix everything later.
9
Do not tell him later: "You see, I was right." Say, "Let's try another option."
ten
Pay attention to the man’s reaction to these words. If he has not changed his mind, do not insist. In the end, any man sooner or later realizes his defeat and, if you are dear to him, will come to you for advice.
eleven
Do not forget about those points on which you could not decide to the end. If a man spares money even for his hobbies or invites for fishing ladies who do not know which side the fishing rod hooks from, you should think about whether this subject is worth your attention at all. The same applies to other points that have made you difficult. After all, any person is to some extent a child, and how honestly he tries to win, allows you to determine the degree of his sincerity to himself and others.