The past is a period of time that has gone and will not happen again. But there could be people and events that I liked very much, filled everything with meaning. And if today is not there, I want to look back. But return is only possible in thought, and it hurts.
Instruction manual
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If something very serious happened, for example, the death of a loved one, parting, you do not need to try to forget everything in one moment, this is impossible. Such incidents torment a person, but it is important to shorten their duration. The most important thing is to stop looking for your guilt, not to think that you could have prevented everything. No need to do work on mistakes, look for what you were wrong about. Even at the moment of mourning, refuse to think about your participation in this event.
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Allow yourself time for sadness. Someone will give themselves only a week, someone - a month or a year. At this time, grieve, cry, complain to others. Emotions need to be thrown out, not stored in yourself. You can scream, blame someone from the past, you can even beat walls or a pillow. Show these feelings in any way that is safe for you and others. But after this period you need to forget all this. Make a decision that after the allotted time you will no longer suffer, but continue to live a full life.
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Perform the rite of "beginning of a new period." It can be anything: from a tea party to a huge banquet. It is simply a ritual that separates the past from the present. You can do it with loved ones or alone. It is important to simply decide that there will be no more pain. And this is a way for himself to facilitate this transition. Do everything thoughtfully, consciously. Say goodbye to the past, thank it for both bad and good. And go ahead.
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No more remembering what has passed. Each time the memory returns to events already occurring, return back. Turn your attention to something. It is better to come up with a beautiful image of a happy future and constantly move there when they embrace memories. At first, this is difficult to do, but experience will help, and in three weeks everything will be easy.
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Take your time. Work or hobby does not leave time for worries. But choose those activities that you like. Enjoy what you are doing, immerse yourself in it with your head so as not to think about the negative. You can continue your development by studying a new profession or delving into your former, improving your skills. New knowledge displaces the past, they fill the present with meaning.
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Remember yourself in your youth. Usually active and cheerful people lose their emotionality and taste for life over time. Find yourself the same, resume those activities that inspired you, start communicating with new people. Entering a new life, you need to smile, radiate joy, so that every day is brighter than the previous one.