The worst grief for parents is the death of their beloved child. When this happens, it seems that life is over and there will never again be anything bright and good. In such a situation, it is necessary at all costs to find strength in order to be able to cope with the pain of loss and start all over again.
You will need
- - personal diary;
- - consultation of a psychologist.
Instruction manual
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Do not hold back emotions: cry, scream - give vent to all your feelings. If possible, do it alone, trying not to scare other family members.
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For a while, casting aside heavy thoughts and freeing yourself from pain, try to analyze what happened from the outside. Your child passed away, this is very sad, but thousands of children die in the world every day. All people are born to die. Yes, he was too small, he could have a whole life ahead of him, but whether she was happy or not? You do not know. If you believe in God, it will be easier for you to bear the pain of loss. After all, everything happens by the will of the Lord, right? Believe in the possibility of meeting with your son or daughter in another - eternal life.
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Do not lock yourself in, try to lead an active lifestyle. At first, it will be very difficult for you to do something: leave home, work, eat, do everyday business. Force yourself, overcome unwillingness to do anything.
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Team up with other family members to relive your grief. Do not blame them for the fact that they suffer less than you, each person experiences grief in his own way. If you still have children in your family, pay attention to them, they are also not easy now. Among other things, they feel your emotional state.
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Remember that time heals any pain. Gradually, day after day, try to add some new positiveness to your life, even if it will be shown even in small things: a randomly dropped smile for one of your relatives or friends, a gift for yourself or your favorite family members, watching an interesting positive film and etc.
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Keep a personal diary, write down your feelings, emotions, experiences in it every day. Writing them on paper, think about the fact that you leave all this in the past, get rid of sad thoughts with each new day. Do not forget about the positive aspects, they are also worth mentioning in your diary, make plans for the future.
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Do not blame yourself for what happened, because you still will not change the situation. Accept the idea that the universe is much more complex than it seems to man. What seems strange, cruel, unfair to people actually has some hidden meaning.
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If you feel that you cannot cope with the pain of loss, you have all the signs of depression, consult an experienced psychotherapist. Through individual conversations or group communication with people who are faced with exactly the same problem as yours, you can return to normal, even if now it seems impossible to you.
Useful advice
Present your child’s clothes and toys to an orphanage or donate to a charity. Do not leave them to yourself, so it will be much more difficult for you to cope with the pain of loss. If you still want things to be in the house, put them in a place so that they are less likely to catch your eye.