Each person has in his memory not only pleasant memories. Unpleasant make people feel awkward every time they just come to mind. What hurts is sometimes difficult to erase from memory. It can poison good memories that are on the same tape of time next to them.
Instruction manual
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If it hurts, then you have not forgiven yourself. Go to confession and tell the priest about this trouble. Experienced priests are very good psychologists and know how to help a person let go of the situation. It is better not to tell other people about their torment - they will not be able to ensure confidentiality, and you better not form unnecessary attachments. In no case do not mess with the sect of Scientologists, they collect for each incriminating evidence, which later is often used to pressure adherents. Take care of your soul and head, do not mess with scammers and do not succumb to their entreaties.
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Think about how bad memories take care of you. Yes, they protect you from future injuries, because people learn mainly from their mistakes. Therefore, write a list of useful lessons that you have learned from the traumatic situation. For example, if you broke up with a young man because you told someone confidential information about him, in the future you will be much more careful in conversations - this quality will not hurt you. The main thing is to set yourself up for the fact that the lessons have been learned, and you can go further. Yes, this is unpleasant and disgusting, but these memories are a great incentive for self-improvement.
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Write these memories on paper. Describe them in detail and become a lawyer for yourself. For each thesis charge, answer with an excuse. Understand that since you made a decision then this is what it means, there were reasons for that. Even a bad mood. But now, when you have risen to a higher level, to another degree of awareness - do not be afraid of new mistakes. Remember the saying about the beaten and unbroken. You with negative experience are more valuable than those who have not encountered such a problem. It is as if you have reached a new level of complexity in a computer game, where both the achievements are higher and the rewards.