There is a category of people in whom everything falls out of hand. And it goes on for more than one month, and even more than one year, and sometimes throughout life. They try, try again, act - and failure again. Time after time, day after day, the same thing. Such people are called losers.
But not everything is so simple and unambiguous in this matter. Losers are also different: some consider their surroundings as such, others only just brand themselves. Some cease to feel spoiled for fate after one major loss in life, after which they cannot rise again. Others face small obstacles every day. You can not call losers and all pessimists, because among them there are many successful people. Whereas luck can be turned away from impenetrable optimists over and over again. There are unlucky people who blame others and circumstances for everything, and there are those who take full responsibility for their lives.
An interesting fact is that the ambitions of each individual and the possibilities of achieving them greatly influence the loser’s self-awareness. There are people who are absolutely satisfied with their position as a plumber who has worked all his life in the local housing office. And another person who dreams of becoming a famous artist, but has not achieved this, will forever be dissatisfied with his fate. Although he has a good income, many times greater than the income of a plumber.
That is why it is so difficult to give the only one true description of the loser. No matter how hard we try to give an exact answer, everyone will perceive himself in this world in his own way.
Nevertheless, there is one thing in common among those who consider themselves to be the clan of losers. Each of them, having tried a certain number of times to achieve the desired in life and having failed, does not find the strength to “stand up” after another “fall”. Such a person loses faith in himself. And then his broken psyche begins to work against him. Even if this person continues to move and do something, he will be haunted by fear and insecurity. And why put all your strength into something that will surely fail and bring pain? It’s better to warn everyone right away (including yourself) so that you don’t count on much. Or maybe even report that “evil rock” hangs over him, which will not lead to anything good.
Believing in his worthlessness in this world, the loser begins to unconsciously attract adversity. Chooses what is unprofitable for him. Afraid to go where there is a chance to try yourself. At the slightest danger capitulates without a fight. So it’s very easy to lose friends and work, and your loved one, and your last self-esteem. This is exactly what happens to goryan sooner or later. Which undoubtedly rooted their belief in their destitution even more.
So why do some succeed at all costs, while others quickly give up? There may be several reasons.
1. These people are naturally suspicious, driven, subject to other people's opinions. The first failures and their assessment by society strongly affect the already unstable self-confidence and their actions. I want to run away, hide and never do anything else, so as not to cause attention to myself.
2. Low stress resistance. Even without an assessment by an authoritative society of this kind, losers tend to quickly become disillusioned with life. Once you get into the "black strip" - and such people are ready to think that all life has gone downhill.
3. To become a loser in life helps a difficult childhood. Lack of support and assistance during this period. Often children hear from annoyed parents: “nonsense”, “slut”, “you can’t do anything right”, “people like you do nothing in life” - it’s no wonder that by the age when a person is able to prove himself, these people are already broken, weak-willed and uninitiated. Failures in this case are poured onto the head of those who do not know how to cope with them.
4. Depression. This is not about a temporary deterioration in mood, but about real clinical depression. In this state, people would like to change a lot in life, but there is only no strength, and the will is paralyzed. In this case, it is very important to consult a specialist on time.