Low self-esteem is a fairly common occurrence. A person may not suspect that it is precisely in it, since he is busy with his complexes and problems. But, as many know, the first step to resolving a problem is recognizing it. Work on your self-esteem is a necessary factor that brings a person closer to happiness and productivity.
- Degrading oneself. First of all, it is necessary to understand that underestimating one’s own abilities is even worse than underestimating one’s capabilities. A person with low self-esteem compares himself with other people, believing that it makes everything much worse.
- Perfectionism. People with low self-esteem strive to do everything perfectly. Any deficiencies become self-incriminating. Very often, such people do not get down to business if they are not sure that it will be performed flawlessly. And this is not as good as it might seem at first glance. After all, ideal conditions are extremely rare, so a large layer of even the simplest things are postponed, filling up mountains of debt and unfulfilled duties.
- Rejection of praise. This is closely related to paragraph 2. In response to the phrase “You look good!” you can hear the following from an underestimating person: “Come on, stop, I have a terrible hairstyle today / crumpled t-shirt / stale makeup, ” etc. Even if a person really looks great, he will find in himself a flaw to which to cling.
- Increased anxiety. Inability to get down to business, focusing on one’s own shortcomings - all this leads to constant worries. "How do I look today? Surely terrible, I urgently need to look in the mirror"; "I have an exam tomorrow, but I learned only 95 questions out of 100, I will definitely fail." Too often, a person experiences worrying thoughts, which leads us to the next point.
- Constant negative. How can you be happy if you worry all the time? People with low self-esteem focus on negativity, on what may be wrong with them and on what they may not succeed in. The emphasis with a sound assessment of what is happening is shifted solely to what could go wrong.
- Inability to say no. An unsure person always tries to please others, so that they think better about him. This leads to the fact that he agrees to help even in situations completely contrary to his personality, which later will also cause discontent and discomfort.
- Self-expression through things. The desire to surround yourself with expensive, branded and fashionable things is also a sign of low self-esteem. A person thinks that if he buys a trendy thing, he will become as beautiful as other people.
If even in a few paragraphs of the above you recognize yourself - this is an occasion to work on yourself. Remember that the first step to adequate self-esteem is to recognize the problem. Try to behave consciously, analyze what is happening. Focus on the positive, on your strengths and capabilities. This will lead you on the right path to happiness.