Some people suffer from excessive stiffness and shyness. They do not like to communicate with strangers and be in the spotlight. They want to behave simply, at ease, but are too notorious, unsure of themselves, afraid to do some stupid thing or to remain incomprehensible. How to overcome the feeling of stiffness?
Instruction manual
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Decide for yourself who you would like to be. Find a positive role model in your environment. This will teach you free and relaxed behavior. Mark the way you communicate and do your own mistakes. Observe and identify examples of other people's complexes.
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Carry out the following experiment. When a lively conversation starts in any company, consciously refuse to participate in it. Instead, look at how people behave, what they are talking about, what mistakes they make and how the interlocutors react to them. This will allow you to imagine yourself in such an environment.
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Always analyze your own behavior in unusual situations. Just do not scold yourself too much. Only constructive criticism is welcome.
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Do not be afraid to remain incomprehensible and do not avoid communication. Be bolder and admit to your interlocutors that you are slightly closed. This will help you overcome the psychological barrier during communication. In this way you will gain confidence in your abilities.
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Do not forget that ideal people do not exist. All have their own shortcomings, complexes and all make mistakes. Accept that troubles sometimes happen. But this is not a disaster. Over time, this situation will no longer seem so terrible, but rather trivial and funny.
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Do not consider yourself the center of the universe, but do not overestimate the importance of the opinions of others.
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Communicate more with people, more often be in crowded companies. So you learn to behave at ease and easily. If you find yourself in an unfamiliar environment among a large number of people and you feel not quite confident, choose one interlocutor. He will help you brighten up your loneliness and adapt to a new company.
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Give people sincere compliments. They will be grateful for the kind words addressed to them.
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Smile a lot and ask more questions. This shows interest in the conversation. For discussion, choose topics that are interesting to both interlocutors.