Someone says that building the right relationship is an art, someone considers it an important necessity, but in any case, everyone who wants to have a healthy relationship must be guided by certain rules, because any beauty and ease is achieved only by joint work.
Instruction manual
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The very first rule is to keep a distance between yourself and your partner. Remember, when you met, how you were kind to each other, how you valued minutes of a meeting, how pleasant it was for you to see and hear a person? Everything that he said was important, and you felt that this interest was mutual. Therefore, do not open to the end, do not try to spread everything about yourself. Let your relationship be like a game in which nothing is yet known. The only thing you need to be sure of is your mutual honesty and desire to be together.
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The main mistake of young couples is that they, on the waves of initial passion, rush towards each other and practically “stick together”. And therein lies a great danger. Over time, such things as selfishness, manipulation, resentment, claims to freedom of another person appear.
All this is justified by the fear of losing each other, and, as a rule, such unions do not end in anything good. Therefore, keep your distance, respect your partner, do not control his every step, restricting your personal freedom to which he has the absolute right. Be a separate person, as you were when meeting your beloved, and let him be like that, because you liked him that way.
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Take care of each other. Stop pressing on the sore spots - because this is nothing more than a manifestation of aggression. But you are together just to organize a comfortable life together, full of trust and mutual understanding.
Take care of your partner no less than you do for your car or hairstyle. Not because you need it or you are waiting for something in return, you want to like it, but because you feel good when it is good for your loved one.
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Talk to each other about your relationship. Do not accumulate resentment, irritation, feelings of infringement in something. Do not hope that a partner in the eyes will read your thoughts. Therefore, say everything that the other person needs to know, but not in the form of claims or manipulations, but as a request. Or just share your experiences.
When a man and a woman speak with each other, frankly, with a desire to maintain a relationship, they do not need any family psychologist, because they can ask each other questions and answer them themselves.
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Personal space is very important for every person, and in a couple this need does not disappear. Everyone should spend at least half their free time on their own: with their friends, in the circle of their own interests, and loneliness is important and useful for the soul for periods.
Therefore, do not strive to do everything together and live together. Embark on a journey alone, divide the space into your personal and general. It is good if everyone has their own separate room or at least a clearly defined corner in the room.
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And most importantly: men, be men, and women, be women! This means that a man must be able to take responsibility at the right time, make specific decisions and in no case seek solace from his woman.
A woman, on the other hand, must be so wise and strong as to be able sometimes to step on her own opinion and to bring her man to the forefront. Indeed, according to popular wisdom, behind every strong man is a strong woman.
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