It is believed that in dealing with strangers one should behave kindly and ignore all attacks on their part. It is by this principle that children were raised in aristocratic families. In past centuries, friendliness and respect were the obligatory personal qualities of representatives of high society.
Today, courtesy is considered a sign of dignity and a high level of culture. Of course, delicacy and restraint should be present in any conversation. However, excessive and tense courtesy is fraught with health problems and psychological breakdown.
German scientists investigated the condition of workers in various professions, which involve polite and courteous communication with customers. During the experiment, it was found that workers who suppress their true emotions and hide them under a friendly smile, after such communication had a rapid pulse and signs of nervous excitement.
The same thing happens if you forbid yourself to spill true emotions. Of course, you don’t need to tear your anger out from others and compensate for all internal aggression on them. Nevertheless, it is also not worth suppressing your impulses and the cry of the soul.
In case of any disagreement, psychologists recommend in a tactful, but at the same time tough and convincing form, to express their thoughts and be sure to argue them. If you are angry that your interlocutor has a different point of view, it is better to stop the polemic altogether or change the subject. But in no case do you have to agree with him out of politeness, restraining at this time a crazy storm inside yourself. Not that she will simply drive you into a deep depression.
There are still cases when you have to portray courtesy in the presence of a person who causes hostility or is simply unpleasant. In this case, he can just smile and try to think about something pleasant, forgetting about the presence of the ill-wisher. If you play a disposition towards him, then within yourself incite even greater hatred.
The portrayed affability and inner enmity cause emotional disharmony in a person. As a result, stress and depression will not pass him by. Therefore, in any situation, try to be as sincere as possible, but at the same time, never forget the rules of communication and the culture of behavior. Excessive truthfulness can represent you as an ill-mannered or unbalanced person.