Hardly anyone wants to spoil his life consciously, but very often this happens. Of course, there is a choice that you make yourself, and no one has the right to interfere in it. But how often do you think that your beliefs are capable of completely depreciating you, nullifying all your efforts and ruining your life?
There are many tips in case you really decide to live worse than you want, feel uncomfortable, spoil your mood from scratch and enjoy your own depreciation.
Some people quite often adhere to the beliefs: “it could have become much worse”, “in fact, it’s not so bad, ” “choose the lesser of two evils, ” which become their motto for life. It is precisely such thoughts that, as a result, lead to the fact that you begin to search for what is really “not so bad, ” while ceasing to notice the best that life presents.
Remember how often you eat what you don’t want, go where your legs don’t, meet those you don’t want to see at all. After all, if you are looking for something "mediocre", then you get what you want, and not what you dreamed about. And special efforts for this are not necessary.
You can completely discount your dream if you start to think that everything that you could get is not for you or "you were not rich, you should not start." Some believe that if their environment has never been happy, successful, independent people, then this can not be at all. Those who would like to make a lot of money are able to limit themselves to such an attitude as “the rich are all thieves”.
Someone stops dreaming, believing that all these are fairy tales for children or that "one must be able to dream too, but I can’t do this, and I don’t want to." And for some, the fulfillment of desires is a change in life for which a person is not really ready, therefore it is better to leave everything as it is and continue to envy others, doing nothing for their own happiness.
Someone is able to spoil their life by finding faults in themselves: I am too fat / thin, my face is not beautiful / too beautiful, my hair is not so long / short, I am too young / old, I have no right to my desires and other things. All these beliefs very quickly devalue anyone who believes in them. As a result, interest in life will soon completely disappear and a person will become mired in a daily routine.
You can spoil your life with great success if you start to adhere to the rule "like everyone else". Such a conviction does not arise immediately. First, you will resist and look for a way out, and then, looking at your surroundings, you will suddenly begin to agree that living “like everyone else” is normal. Everyone eats this food - and I will. Everyone is going to rest abroad - and I will go. Everyone gets married - and I will get out. On the one hand, everything is fine, but on the other, it turns out that your life is not in you, and, unfortunately, it will end sooner or later. Your chances are decreasing every year, and as a result you get "everything like everyone else", but for some reason it is not happy and does not cause respect for yourself.
When you become a "gray mass", then in your environment there will be exactly the same depreciated people who spoiled their own lives thanks to their own convictions and "work on themselves." And you begin to bear your heavy cross with them, occasionally rejoicing that you can rest from constant hassle at work and at home, being alone. Any of your aspirations to change your own life will be suppressed by the depreciated people with whom you surrounded yourself.