It is not so easy to form a personality in yourself. The fact is that the personality is formed on its own, a consequence of those life troubles that we encounter on the way, due to enrichment of knowledge, due to communication with different people. This is an independent process, but it can be helped.
Instruction manual
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A personality is a combination of properties inherent in a person and forming his personality. Think about whether you can actually form this aggregate yourself? After all, if you yourself want to pick up a number of some characteristic features, then you will most likely be guided either by someone’s example or by your own ideas about the ideal. But instilling in yourself something alien is very difficult, if at all possible; in most cases, rejection occurs. You can only try to change for the better.
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May you always have some positive example before your eyes. This may be someone from your relatives or friends who has managed to achieve a lot. Copy the best of his features, gradually, checking from time to time, whether your "I" can accept innovations. But never follow the ideal blindly: analyze its actions, draw timely conclusions, ask the opinions of people you respect. It would be foolish to copy your life with a stranger and replace your “I” with a stranger.
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Read more. It is impossible to learn everything in the world. A refined life, passing from year to year under the same (usually good) conditions, in the circle of the same friends (usually completely uninteresting and nothing special), is the destiny of very few people, but even if life has patted you, there will always be some sphere - feelings, knowledge, skills, principles that you have not touched. To get at least some idea of her, read books, good books. From them you will learn a lot of things that you may not have been able to see in life.
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Do not push people away from you. Nothing develops a personality more than contact with the world of another person. When meeting, do not think that this or that person you will never need, will not meet again or that you will not need him. Be careful with people, because there are such instances that they can break any personality, even as strong as yours. However, do not close your eyes to people, plunging into yourself. They can tell you even more than books.
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Your personality develops throughout life. The only thing you can do is somehow direct the course of this development and become something that corresponds to another definition of the word "personality" - a person with a pronounced personality. Take care of yourself, do not forget about the norms of morality and morality, about philanthropy and mercy. It may sound corny; but it is precisely these centuries-old repeating principles that form the real Person.