Our life is built according to certain rules, and if you do not know them, then you can search for answers to not very pleasant questions for a long time. And not the fact that the answers will be found quickly. Because of this, dissatisfaction with life will arise, and this is the first symptom of a loser. If you want to manage your life, you must behave consciously and rationally. Several simple rules just help in this. Master them and you will see how everything around will change.
1.Take failure as a normal life experience.
Not a single person lived a serene, smooth and smooth life - not a single one. And you will not be an exception, believe me. The main thing that you need to understand at the time of failure is that everything will someday end, pass, and that you still need to live on. And not just live, but live in the pursuit of a better, goal. Set goals - then for what you will live and calmly overcome failures, fall and rise again and move on.
2. Disappointment in people is inevitable.
We often expect from people that they cannot give us, and then we worry that expectations did not materialize. Understand that these were your personal expectations, and the person under them "did not subscribe." And if so - what could be the complaint? Be tolerant of people, forgive their weaknesses, because it is not known how you will behave in a particular situation that will be difficult for you.
3. Love, not fall in love.
A man cannot help but love, but this is a very complicated thing. Love is euphoria, and love is giving. Feel the difference? In the first case, it’s a feeling that “I’m so good with you”, that is, you enjoy communication, dreams and hopes. In the second case, you care about something else. Falling in love quickly passes, and the real feeling remains for life. Why do we need a perishable product?
4. Be able to let go.
True, this is not very simple, because by nature many of us are “mossy owners”. However, it is necessary to give people the right to live their own lives, without squeezing them into their ideas and into their framework. If you don’t dock with someone, let go. If you can’t put up with something, just let it go. This is best for your psyche. The best news is here: the one who should be in your life by fate will be sure to be in it. And why do we need the rest?
5. Swim upstream.
There are so many stereotypes in our lives that there is nowhere to spit. Because of them, people now live the way they live. The picture is pretty unsightly, anyway. If you want to live not like everyone else - do not believe in what they believe in, and do not do what they do. It takes a lot of courage, but the result will be amazing.
6. Change and edit your plans more often
It’s not about the fact that today I want one thing, but tomorrow another, and generally not about desire. A plan is steps to achieve your goal, right? And since life is changing rapidly, in the process of achieving the goal you gain experience, skills and more - the plan will require adjustment. Therefore, do not get attached to it too categorically, be flexible.
7. Everything is temporary.
If we recall our life, we will understand that ten years ago we were different, a year ago we were not the same as now, and even yesterday’s “I” is different from the “I” of today. Everything flows and changes, so you should not worry too much about the unpleasant, nor should you rest on your laurels for too long if luck smiled broadly. Harmony and balance in everything - that is true.
8. You are no worse than others.
Therefore, do not compare yourself with anyone, especially with those who ring on every corner, how wonderful his life is. Instagram is not an indicator of a person’s life, but rather window dressing, a sort of dream. Everyone has enough problems, so solve yours consistently, not counting the money in the pockets of other people and the number of their successes. Focus on your goals, and then people will compare themselves with you, but this is not your concern.
9. Forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself in advance for all the mistakes - in advance, then it will be easier for you to accept them. You will act recklessly, badly, stupidly and reasonably. So what? Doing something is much better than messing around and not making mistakes. This is life in a greenhouse, and this is not life. The wise say that you are always right, even if you made a mistake. Because you could not act differently at this moment - you did not have experience, knowledge or anything else. But now you have experience and you understand what you need to know so that another time there will be no mistake.
10. You are not a dollar, so everyone likes it.
Yes, there will be people who say that they cannot stand you. You know, this is very funny, because a tricky mechanism works here: a person does not like in you what is in himself. It’s just that he doesn’t see it in himself, but he sees in you as under a magnifying glass. It turns out that he can’t stand himself with such qualities, and not you. Laugh and ignore. And if possible, tell him about it.
11. Say whatever you want to say.
Do not be silent. Otherwise, no one will know what you think, feel, what you want and what you don’t like. It will be very inconvenient for you to live like this - people will do everything wrong or wrong. Therefore, take the motto: "speak, all speak!". Say everything in a friendly and calm tone.
12. Grow and grow.
To do this, you need to do what you are afraid to do - at least small steps. Constantly read, listen to audio and improve skills. Seek a balance between entertainment and business (relaxation is also important). Seek advice from the more experienced and wise. Search for answers to questions.
13. Sow the seeds of good luck.
We know that there is nothing accidental. What you did yesterday will echo today or the day after tomorrow. It's just that we, as a magnet, attract everything we deserve to ourselves. Therefore, do only what leads to a positive result, aim for the result. And all will be well.
14. Do not doubt yourself.
The one who has achieved a lot knows that the main person in your life is you. Do not doubt the most important thing. Given that a person in his entire life uses only 10% of his potential, his abilities, can you imagine how much more internal wealth you have? Just open them every day, learning new knowledge and acquiring new skills. Overcoming your weaknesses helps to respect yourself and be confident. What weakness or habit will you overcome today, this week, in a month?
15. Take responsibility.
Everyone is busy with his life, and here you will take care of your own. Nobody is to blame for the way you live today, there is nobody's merit in your achievements - only your merits have led you to success. You can consider yourself a victim of circumstances and spend your whole life wailing about the injustice of the world, or you can gradually, step by step, improve your life yourself. This is one of the surest ways.