Belief in yourself is closely interconnected with two psychological factors. It is self-confidence and a sense of security. You can’t believe in yourself suddenly, in an instant, it is a long process that never ends. Belief in oneself must be maintained constantly, trying to surround oneself only with those things and people who give inspiration and calmness. Love and support from loved ones is priceless, but you need to learn to answer the same. The more a person radiates positive and energy, the more he will return to him, nourishing his faith in his own strength.
Instruction manual
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When a person believes in himself, this means that he is convinced of the successful outcome of any business that he is planning. This conviction is lacking for many people, and all, in the end, come to the conclusion that self-confidence must somehow be gained.
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Unfortunately, there is no magic pill or magic rite that could make a person believe in himself right now. You won’t help here even by reading literature promising a quick result. This is a process, and it lasts a lifetime. After all, in order to believe in yourself, it is not enough to achieve this faith, you need to constantly nourish it.
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Belief in oneself is determined by two major psychological factors: a sense of security and adequate self-esteem. A sense of security, tranquility in today's troubled world provide relationships with other people. It can be close relatives, friends and loved ones who constantly support you. These are people who tell you, “You are great!”, “You will succeed!”, “You can!”
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These should be the people you believe, whose words are important to you. However, such words must be earned by their actions, their own joy and the support of other people. It is important to maintain a sense of gratitude, enthusiasm, joy and gives it to them every day. You don’t need much: even if you woke up in a bad mood in the morning, go to the mirror and smile.
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A sense of security is a reliable “rear” in gaining self-confidence, because this can only be done when someone else believes in you. So you build your self-esteem, so you yourself begin to believe in yourself. Try to open yourself to a loved one, talk heart to heart, discuss the problems that you are looking for a solution.
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Ask him the calm, direct question, "What do you think, will I do the right thing if
."etc. This person will feel your trust and answer you in the same way. So your relationship will grow into a more serious phase, your assessment will grow in his eyes. And if you are not indifferent to this person, then he / she, at least, is serious he will think about it before answering you, which will inspire you to believe that your actions, words are taken seriously and are very important to him.
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Perhaps you will immediately receive a positive response and a charge of vivacity, which will give you enthusiasm. If not, do not rush to immediately immediately react sharply to criticism, thereby reducing all efforts to nothing, think, maybe you are really wrong and change your mind.
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It may turn out that you will insist on your own, so your faith in your own strength will increase, and you will be convinced that you are able to make the right decisions, despite external influences. In this case, do not forget to thank the adviser, to say that his opinion is very important for you. So you maintain a trusting relationship and earn the status of an adequate, thoughtful person who knows how to achieve goals and make the right decisions. And you will see that next time they will treat you with great confidence.
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Self-esteem is low, adequate and high. If you lack faith in yourself, then you have low self-esteem, and it needs to be increased. High self-esteem is another extreme, which also requires correction, because in both cases you inadequately assess your capabilities, and this can lead to undesirable consequences.
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First you need to come forward as a strict critic in relation to yourself. Remember all your strengths and weaknesses without hiding anything. Most likely, you will be able to recall a lot, so it is better to arm yourself with a pen and paper, split the sheet into two columns.
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Look at the sheet in front of you, at the left column with flaws, do you see a lot there? Now think about which of your acquaintances, friends, or some celebrities whom you read about in a glossy magazine do not have these shortcomings? If you still want to get rid of your shortcomings, write in front of each item how you could do this and follow your own recommendations for at least a week.
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Now look at the merits column. If you did everything honestly, then there will be more lines there and that’s right. Look at the sheet every day and do not forget to encourage yourself by saying words, adding “I”: “I am attentive”, etc.