The attitude of people around you reflects many circumstances, sometimes beyond your control. Often this is public spam, requiring immediate removal from the fate program. Simply put, you are overgrown with gossip, but you can’t fight it.
Instruction manual
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Recount your flaws again. Now all of them should be on your special account if you want to change the established view of others on your merits.
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Forgive yourself for some traits of your character, justifying: "After all, it's not my fault that such and such is here!" This will be the first step to recognizing your bad character traits.
3
Tell your neighbors about yourself. Present them the positive facts of your life. Always a banal reason (by the way, completely unexpected for a person) that generates nasty gossip is incomplete information available to the public. It can also carry the same facts, or be one-sided. Add the right facts to the right people.
4
Avoid distorted facts about your problems when talking with friends. Any distortion of reality returns dirty slop on your head.
5
Make sure that your pattern of behavior coincides with the desired attitude towards you. Maybe you really respect a person, but you accidentally allowed yourself a sharp remark? How would he realize that there was respect behind her? Sound the phrase: I respect you. Keep your distance from ostentatious goodwill, hypocritical boasting, artsy courtesy.
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Carefully observe and analyze the speech addressed to you, the response phrases to your words. If a person listens to you, interrupting, inattentively and impatiently, without pleasure, then this signals his negative attitude towards you, at best, indifferent.
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Learn to perceive and understand yourself correctly. An effective exercise in this direction can be watching videos with personal participation in frames or listening to audio recordings with your own voice. It’s easy to make conclusions: what you like or dislike, it acts similarly on outsiders.
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Experiment in front of a mirror, and then in front of people: try to make them smile, for example, or tenderness. Well, if there is a friend whom you can directly ask: "Do you like it when I do like this?"
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The new patterns of behavior you have developed should be carefully monitored for six months.