Man is a social being. He cannot live guided solely by his instincts. Everyone has their own thoughts and experiences. The way we see ourselves in the world around us, the way we evaluate our capabilities, largely determines all our actions. Self-esteem plays a big role here, but how to define it?
Instruction manual
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Agree that your behavior and inner state largely depends on the situation in which you are located, on the people who surround you, on the mood of these people towards you. It’s easier to start with low self-esteem. Analyze at what moments and under what conditions you feel insecure. Try to be in such situations as often as possible: educate yourself.
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Pay attention to how you feel about yourself during any setbacks. People with high self-esteem often shift their failures onto the shoulders of other people, thereby completely relieving any responsibility to themselves for the failure. In this case, try to identify for yourself those aspects that could be implemented by you to avoid failure and answer the question why you did not. If there is an excuse for everything, then, most likely, self-esteem is overstated. People with low self-esteem begin to get upset, scold themselves. Pay attention to what you say to yourself, what exactly you do not like in your actions, why you scold yourself.
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Pay attention to how you react to criticism. If your self-esteem is overrated, then criticism is most often perceived with hostility, with a clear lack of interest and a desire to quickly end the conversation. With low self-esteem, things are different. A man listens to criticism and agrees implicitly with its negative points.
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An extremely important point in determining self-esteem is self-criticism. It is perceived by people more effectively than the comments of strangers. Criticizing yourself, you will understand that some part of you is saying all this, which means that she’s right. If you often criticize yourself, are constantly dissatisfied with yourself, and think that someone else would do much better, then your self-esteem is below average.