It happens that people, because of their excessive modesty, have difficulties in communicating even with people close to them. On holidays, they just sit in the corner, trying not to talk to anyone or participate in the fun. And if there is such an opportunity, then such a person will simply miss this event. Because of this behavior, even the closest people can consider such a person arrogant, because over time, he generally ceases to communicate with them. However, do not despair - there are a huge number of techniques with which you can overcome modesty.
Instruction manual
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First accept the fact that you are a humble person. Do not get hung up on the fact that you cannot come up with a worthy objection to someone's stupid joke in time. You have a ton of other benefits, and it’s worth focusing on them.
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When you are talking with a person, try to give him as much attention as possible. Listen to what the people around you are saying. Do not be afraid to ask them any clarifying questions, for example: "what surprised you most about this" or "what do you mean when discussing this." People like to be interested in their opinions, but do not forget to express your thoughts. This is one of the most common ways to maintain a conversation, and you can develop this ability without problems in yourself.
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Try to start small conversations more often. This is very easy to do, for example, when you buy food in a store, instead of immediately moving away from the cashier, compliment the seller, ask him about something. Such fleeting phrases will create a good impression of you.
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Try to take part in solving the problems of your loved ones, especially if you have a real opportunity to help. You will not notice the moment when you stop being shy - you simply will not have time for this.
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Never refuse your friends' suggestions to go somewhere and chat with everyone together. If they invite you, it means that they are interesting to you.
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Learn how to calmly respond to failures. Sometimes a person simply does not want to talk to you. Instead of being angry with him, explain to others the reason for this behavior.
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In addition, you can perform the following exercise: take a walk in crowded places and try to talk with someone. You do not need to make friends with this person, you only want to talk to him.