Breakup, divorce - events that, as a rule, cause a lot of suffering and mental pain. Work on yourself will help to cope with them, including, among other things, the creation of psychological barriers to destructive emotions.
You will need
- - consultation of a psychologist;
- - movie or theater ticket.
Instruction manual
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Carefully analyze the reasons for your breakup that triggered the break. Moreover, consider not only the mistakes of your partner, but also your own. Once you have examined the situation in detail and made certain conclusions, do not return to it anymore. Remember that scrolling through the thoughts of the same events will not change anything, but it will constantly spoil your mood and take away vitality.
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Stop idealizing your ex-partner and blaming yourself. In a breakup, as a rule, both are to blame. Better remember all its shortcomings - imagine them in all colors, rejoice that now you do not have to endure them. Think more often about your benefits from your breakup, paying attention to even the smallest of them. For example, did your loved one snore loudly in a dream and always sleep across the bed? You no longer have to plug your ears and huddle at the very edge of the bed! Did he leave behind mountains of unwashed dishes and always scattered dirty socks all over the apartment? Enjoy the perfect order! Did he forget to wish you a happy birthday? Now you will find much less disappointment!
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Do not lock yourself in, be open to communication with other people. To calm the pain of the soul a little, time and willpower are needed. With the help of the latter, you will literally pull yourself out of the depths of longing - much like Baron Munchausen pulled himself out of a quagmire.
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Do not refuse friendly invitations to cinema, parties and other entertainment events. If you think that now is not the best time to enjoy life, you are mistaken. Right now you just need to dump the load of emotions, unwind and be distracted.
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Start attending various sports sections, sign up for some interesting courses, and find hobbies for yourself. Do everything possible so that you have as little time as possible for sad thoughts.
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Talk as little as possible with friends and acquaintances about the painful topic of breaking up relationships for you. Speaking to a loved one or a psychologist, of course, it is possible and sometimes necessary, but do not turn this activity into a kind of hobby, do not look for a “vest” in which you can cry constantly.
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Choose a positive outlook: do not watch sad melodramas and do not read poems and novels about unhappy love, do not communicate with melancholy people who cultivate their inhuman suffering. Cross out from your life everything that can lead you into a bad mood.
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If the situation has gone too far and you feel that you cannot cope with constant anguish and depression, you have thoughts about suicide - turn to a psychotherapist for help. Perhaps he will advise you to enroll in a rehabilitation group consisting of people who have faced the same problem as you. The specialist can also appoint you individual sessions of psychotherapy, after which you will once again learn to enjoy life and expect only positive events from it.
note
Take away from your eyes all things that remind you of a departed person. Make repairs in the apartment, rearrange the furniture, remove old photographs from the walls - in a word, start a new life.
Useful advice
Do not follow sad thoughts, do not succumb to them. The habit of feeling sorry for yourself will not lead to anything good, so do not take the position of the victim, remember that you are a self-sufficient person, and if this is not so, then strive for it.