The bitter truth is always better than a sweet lie. This is known to everyone since childhood. Therefore, you must be able to tell this truth, no matter how unpleasant it may be.
Instruction manual
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In order to gradually get out of lies and invented illusions, you should study what kinds of truth are. And gradually begin to tell her to herself and others, so that later she does not cheat and does not disappoint.
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First level.
The ability to tell the truth to yourself about yourself.
For example, a girl considers herself slim. In this case, the flaws of the figure will be pronounced. She can be beautiful, well-groomed, stylish, but certainly not slim. At the same time, she wears mini skirts and tops. Well, she’s slim! And then she wonders why there are no good photos, where she is as a model. There will be no such photos! Self-confidence is good. But you need to recognize the fact of being overweight and either select the appropriate clothing to emphasize the merits, or make a decision - to reduce weight, but not engage in self-deception.
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Second level.
The ability to tell the truth to yourself about another person.
For example, a girl in a relationship with a guy who loves her. And she also believes that she loves him. But he's pretty, good. Nothing more to come up with. She is happy to meet other guys. And he forgets about his boyfriend during the holidays. They generally do not spend their free time together. She doesn’t remember him. It is time for her to confess to herself that she does not love him, and, with her lie, only makes it worse. She devastates a partner. After all, feelings are unrequited. Although, each of them could find their love and become happy.
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Third level.
The ability to tell the truth to another person about yourself.
People often hide the truth about themselves because they are afraid of being misunderstood or becoming outcasts. But the more they lie, the more they get confused. Moreover, no one is urging everyone to tell the truth about themselves from tomorrow. This can shock people. But still, one should not lie too much so as not to get entangled in one’s own lie.
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For example, a student studies well, but eventually realizes that he has chosen the wrong specialty. Learning is getting harder. Each pair is torment. And what will happen next? Will the student start skipping classes? If this happens, he will be forced to deceive classmates, teachers, the dean’s office, and, most importantly, himself. That is, in order not to deceive the other, one must not deceive oneself. The student must admit to himself that his omissions are not banal fatigue, but a premonition that he has chosen the wrong path. Therefore, you need to decide what to do next, and not deceive others and yourself. You can either expel, or take an academic leave and think about everything. There is nothing wrong with leaving an institute that you don’t like to study at. Not everyone can be engineers, doctors, economists.
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Fourth level.
The ability to tell the truth to another person about another person.
It should be noted that the truth is different for everyone, therefore it is subjective. In addition, if a person does not like something, then you do not need to express everything right away. So friends at all will not remain. You just need to be a little more honest so that the other person does not build illusions. For example, two girls communicate. One believes that they are friends. And the other is not. It’s all because the first one says unpleasant things, hurts, insults with words, without realizing it. And the second does not dare to tell the first that she feels bad from such communication. If the second girl immediately said that it hurts once again to hear about the happy life of her ex-boyfriend, that she does not need to be acquainted with anyone, and she does not need to be taught how to live. Then it would be more honest. And so it turns out one hypocrisy, gradually turning into hatred.
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Fifth level.
The ability to tell the truth to everyone about everything.
If a person went through all four levels, then he learned to live without lies, stereotypes and illusions, which means he became freer.