People often feel sorry for others. They see poor pensioners, homeless people, abandoned animals, and inside there is a wave of pity. Sometimes it is very useful, because all charity is built on it. However, with incorrect expression, such a feeling does not lead to anything good.
Pity in the family
A small person does not need to be spared often. Moms sometimes say: "I will do it myself, when you grow up, you will work out." And such a position is very detrimental to the character of growing up. He does not perform basic duties, does not take responsibility. Mom does not try to harm, she only tries to isolate her child from difficult worries until a certain period, but thanks to this, important qualities are not brought up. In the future, the child will not want to work, it is likely that he will always live at the expense of his parents.
No need to regret an adult husband or son if he is left without work. Of course, he needs support, and even a small period for depression can be allocated, but he should not be delayed for many months. Anyone can find a job, and indulging someone who does not want to earn money is not worth it. Pity generates parasitism, a person begins to live at the expense of others, and this suits him. Remove empathy and it will change, it will begin to be realized in a new place.
Self-pity
Some people like to complain about their fate, talk about how unlucky they were with their parents or other circumstances. This is a way to shift responsibility from one’s shoulders to others. People usually have the opportunity to build their lives comfortably, but for this you need to work, study and make an effort. And sitting without money and work is much easier, blaming others for failures.
No need to feel sorry for yourself if something does not work out in life. Firstly, you should look back and think about whether you are doing in life. Sometimes failures arise due to the fact that the scope of work is chosen incorrectly. If so, change your place. Secondly, think, have you done everything for your success? Have you improved, developed and accomplished something every day to become better and receive more from the world? Realize that the amount of money and success depends on performance, and start to do something.