In the world, probably, there is no such person who has not experienced even injections of jealousy. People worry and spoil their mood, fearing the thought that they might lose their loved ones because someone is stronger, smarter, more charming, etc. And it is hardly possible to get rid of jealousy completely, because it would mean that you simply became indifferent. But jealousy as a disease is also not needed, and you should learn to control this feeling so as not to spoil the relationship.
Instruction manual
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If you are overwhelmed by a fit of jealousy, do not rush to swear, sort things out, or do any other nonsense. Try to retire. Sit down, calm down and think hard about whether or not to be jealous in this case. After all, a loved one can easily be offended if your accusations are groundless. So do you need to create problems for yourself?
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Ask yourself honestly why you are jealous. Think about why this happened. If you notice that your beloved really pays excessive attention to other women, do not try to "bite yourself" - this will not help. Better analyze your weaknesses, maybe you should change something in yourself, for example, some character traits or appearance. Build self-confidence.
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Try to get distracted by something else in order to forget about unpleasant feelings for a while. Do what you love, watch an interesting movie, take a walk in the fresh air, play with your child, etc. You can throw out your emotions in some kind of physical activity, for example, exercise, do house cleaning or do laundry.
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When you are completely at peace, talk with your loved one in private. Tell your doubts and concerns as impartially as possible, without accusations and reproaches. You may decide that both of you should change your behavior. In any case, you will understand what you personally lack.
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Try to behave calmly and judiciously. If you see how your loved one turns around after some girl, it is hardly worth pulling him or getting angry. Many men do this, and if you do not focus on this fact, your young man will probably forget what he saw in a couple of minutes.
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Even if you were provided with some photos or documents that supposedly confirm the fact of a betrayal of a loved one, do not rush to respond. To begin, think about the purpose of this. Perhaps you want to earn money or someone wants to upset your relationship. In some cases, fakes are possible. But even if this turns out to be true, do not scandal and humiliate yourself.
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If you come to the idea that you are being cheated, then try to think logically: this will happen regardless of your jealousy, what you think about this or how you behave. The world around you is not collapsing, you can see other people, enjoy life and be happy for a person who wants to find his happiness. True love lies in the fact that you give something to your loved one, and not take it in return. Otherwise, this is not love, but bargaining.
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The other person, even the closest, is not your personal thing and he cannot completely belong to you alone. In the same way, you should not be completely dependent on another person, because you are an independent person. For you, self-esteem and self-love are no less important than love for other people.
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If you still cannot manage to cope with a feeling of jealousy that depresses you, there is nothing wrong with asking a specialist for advice. Consult a psychologist.