Recently, more and more women complain about difficulties in relationships. Either the men are “wrong”, or the husband suddenly begins to walk, and some do not even try to hide it. In 80% of the women themselves are to blame. And the first thing you need to do to change the situation is to finally take responsibility for your life, and also not to allow at least basic female mistakes in relationships.
For starters, stop looking for relationships for status. If you feel inferior in relationships, then you first need to work on yourself and your self-esteem. A happy and confident woman will attract potentially the same candidate. If you hold on to an alcoholic, a parasite, so as not to be alone, then you have big problems and they will not go away on their own. With such thoughts you cannot meet a worthy man.
There are two categories of women: one says that she is single, the second - I am free. Feel the difference? Loneliness is a state of mind and the biggest mistake women try to fill it with relationships. Relationship is a full harmony based on respect for each other, and not to seize because of a feeling of fear of loneliness. Subconsciously, men feel this and alas, such a relationship ends in a break. A free woman does not wait until she is elected, she chooses herself. And the lonely grabs the first one on her way.
Depressing thoughts about my age such as "What can I expect in 30, 40, 50, etc. years." If you feel like a junk, then men will treat you like that. Then do not be surprised that the man ceases to respect you and makes you understand that no one would take you apart from him.
Many women sincerely consider sex to be the measure of relationships, saying how I refuse him, he will immediately go to another. Here again, it is a matter of self-respect. Sex is an important step in a relationship and it is not a way to keep a man or attach to himself. This is a manifestation of intimacy, harmony and serious relationship. Do not settle for sex if you are unsure of a relationship or do not feel ready. Otherwise, bitterness and resentment will remain.
Civil marriages are a sensational and very painful topic. Have you ever wondered why 80% of civil marriages do not go official? It's one thing if you are happy with both initially. Then the question is removed. But if you want an official relationship and all that is connected with it, then think about whether it’s too long to “get to know each other better”. And when two years later you raise the topic, he answers in surprise, but why do we need to sign it? Still so good. There is a popular saying, "Why buy a cow when milk is free." The man already has a woman who takes care of him, does everything and also has a trick, I'm not married. It is beneficial for men. Specify the terms of your civil marriage before it begins, if you go to it.
Do not try to re-educate an adult mature man. This is a common mistake of many women who associate themselves with a sissy, a parasite, etc., with the belief that it is you and only you who can re-educate and enlighten him.
The birth of a child is an important step and it is first of all for you to take it, and not because it wanted to, it’s time already, mother asks when. Remember that most of the responsibility lies with you, your body. First of all, evaluate your readiness to become a mother morally and your material resources, if you fail with a man.
Do not live in illusions like beats means loves. Or he hits, but in principle, not bad. In such cases, the phrase "I love him" sounds like sadomasochism. You should not expect that at one fine moment it will change and everything will be fine. This is your life and your choice, if you allow you to be humiliated, you accept this choice and you live like that until you understand that it is time to change something in life.