For many people, the inability to respond with a refusal makes life difficult. Reliability is often used by people who are used to working with their own hands. Almost always, a trouble-free personality understands that it is simply used, but does not find the strength and confidence to refuse.
There are several easy to learn ways to refuse:
• Give yourself the opportunity to make sense of the situation. Before impulsively agreeing with pleasure, you need to pause and analyze whether there really is free time to implement the request and whether it contradicts your desires, principles and interests. And only after weighing the pros and cons is it worth answering.
• Counterattack. There are necessarily individuals who are not at all embarrassed, abusing reliability. In dealing with such individuals, the next time you try to impose the fulfillment of certain requests, it is worth starting to implement the principle of scrap. As soon as it becomes clear that the requests are about to begin, do not let this happen. You can start the story of the questioner about his dissatisfaction with life, work, weather, some situation. You can begin to cry about a catastrophic lack of time, poor health, lack of money. In a word, you need to fill up the interlocutor with complaints about all kinds of life problems. Just a few repetitions of such attacks and the manipulator is unlikely to soon try again to make everything work in its own way.
• The development of healthy selfishness. What essentially can happen in case of refusal to assist? After all, the earth does not stop and the sun does not go out. Often failure can provoke resentment, the formation of negative opinions and lack of respect. But in such a situation, one should seriously think about whether it is necessary to have a person in an environment who does not value people for their personal qualities, but only for the convenience of being used as a servant. It is important to learn how to act based on your principles and priorities.
It is worth remembering that a person who abandons all his affairs and at the expense of his interests fulfilling someone’s requests is absolutely not appreciated. For such people, this is just a convenient person. It is imperative to learn how to defend your interests and speak competently no so as not to offend yourself first.